Easter Dinner with my Christian Family... help!

Hey there, any of you had this experience, uncomfortable... embarrassing... my folks are coming over for Easter Lunch tomorrow, getting Lamb, my Mum is cooking a special Symnal Cake in which bits of the cake represent different pieces of the Easter Story (in marzipan)... it's the most religios day of the year and my Fundie Mum and my Vicar Dad are spending it with us... any of youdoing anything similar?

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Comment by Dustin on April 23, 2011 at 8:11pm
You live in Maryland?  You should invite me over , I LOVE Lamb!!  I'll even act Christian just to rip into some medium rare Lamb.  Mmmmm
Comment by M on April 23, 2011 at 10:04pm
Nope, lucky me.  I do feel for the ones who are in your situation, though.  Good luck to you!
Comment by Chris Lambert on April 24, 2011 at 3:23am

Cheers all I'm getting ready, about to do Easter Egg hunt and then...

They come....

I like the "my house my rules" thing but eeeeeeek, I know it would make things really uncomfortable...

Comment by Janet Richter on April 24, 2011 at 2:02pm

Oh, Chris.  I feel for you.  Some of this seems more about how your parents perceive you than about the holiday itself.  I will try to make this short as I tend to ramble.


Even as a child my parents wanted me to be more feminine.  I was a tomboy.  Jeans over dresses, skinned knees over manicured nails.  It was and is just who I am.  I am not a lesbian, although I have no problem with who other people love.


I am 53 years old and my mom, bless her heart, still tells me I would be prettier if I would just put some make up on.  Okay, that is not going to happen and it still irritates me.


So a friend's son became ordained and married someone you probably don't know.  I get it.  They wanted something else from or for you, even though they love you. 


But you are you.  Stand your ground and be the best you that you can be.  If you think that you can't take it and are about to give in. . .write to me.  Trust me.  If you can talk me into coloring my gray hair and putting on make up after all these years. . .or lessen my disappointment of my mother. . . give me a shout out.

Comment by Chris Lambert on April 24, 2011 at 2:56pm
Hey that didn't go too badly. The lamb was tender, Mum's symnal cake with the 11 apostles represented by balls of marzipan was really tasty, I felt on edge the entire time and fell silent every time that anything Christian was mentioned. That seemed to work. So thanks everybody, I'm now going to have a great big glass of vino.
Comment by Discern on April 24, 2011 at 8:32pm

I don't understand why some people find it so hard just to bow your head when they pray, or other similar gestures of respect. Unless a family member is purposely trying to provoke you, I think it's good just to try and show the usual courtesy. If they know you don't believe, then great, there's no reason for you to make some kind of silent protest and cause dissension every time there's a family gathering.


One thing that bugged me as a christian was being at a christian wedding and the pastor would ask the church to stand as part of a prayer before the pre-ceremony ritual. Some of the 'sinner' in-laws would refuse to stand and just sit in their seats chewing gum or what have you. For the sake of their relative's wedding and special day, they couldn't simply show some respect for a 50 minute ceremony. It wasn't the time to show their disdain for organized religion.


When I was a christian I visited some Shinto temples in Japan. I was filming some of the practices, and then I noticed a couple people looking at me. I was like "oh crap" and remembered they weren't keen on people filming the actual ritual. I quickly put away my camera. As a christian, I couldn't care less about Shinto, but I don't have to flout it - or at least appear to flout my disdain. If the roles were reversed, I would've liked the same basic courtesy.

Comment by Discern on April 24, 2011 at 11:36pm
yeah true, you have more freedom in your own home.


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