I just said what I actually think about something on Facebook. Kind of silly, I know. But a pretty major step for me. I usually avoid saying what I think like the plague. Mostly because I'm afraid of confrontation and what my family will think. However, I'm starting to get to the point where it's just...screw it. If my family and friends can't accept me for who I am, then it's their loss.

What happened was this: A cousin made a comment about how it's not PC to be a man anymore. You know, a "real" man who's interested in cars, tools, guns, and beating their chests.

So I commented on how it's damaging to try and force men and women into neat little boxes. This is what men like, and this is what women like. This is how men behave, and this is how women behave. Then I talked about how men (and women) who don't fit into those neat little boxes are derided. Men are called "gay," "fag," etc. Women are called "bitch," "slut," etc. This sort of thing will not sit well with my family...or anyone I know, actually.

I feel like I'm not being very coherent right now. My hands are actually shaking. I mean, this really is a VERY big deal for me. Right. I'm going to go and try to calm down. :-)

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Comment by Andrew Wilson on February 17, 2012 at 6:41pm

Interesting. I tend to air my atheism on twitter more, and less so on facebook too. Although I have been more vocal recently on FB. I think it is because there is family on there and not so much on twitter.

Comment by DanVB on February 17, 2012 at 6:50pm

I'm with you.  I was outed on FB as an atheist for some of the things I've commented on. Some family/friends preach fire and brimstone, others inundate my inbox with motivational scriptural delusions and others were supportive.  All in all, i simply live well and that is all that matters anymore.  

I have to agree with Andrew, my twitter is for airing atheism as well. 

Comment by Andrew Wilson on February 17, 2012 at 8:39pm

I wish that were true David. At least they don't back down on twitter.

Comment by Dylan Sloboda on February 18, 2012 at 4:31am

Way to go with breaking their neat little boxes!

Comment by Reg The Fronkey Farmer on February 18, 2012 at 6:27am

There is nothing wrong with treating people as individuals. Even groups are made up of individuals. So allowing them to be so and treating them as such is the way to go. It is just too easy to stereotype people who are different to each other especially when they may make different lifestyle choices or hold views or beliefs that we may not agree with. Often it is just a case of not spending the time to understand others rather than not agreeing with them that leads to sweeping statements about “those kinds of people” that “we have nothing against but…” So hold your head high and speak your mind when you feel you must. Just put the bigots back in their boxes.

Comment by Alice Browne on February 18, 2012 at 10:56am

That showed a lot of courage on your part, Marianne. Empathy, too. It's cruel to force people into gender role boxes--or any other boxes for that matter. I applaud you for pointing that out, and I hope your family doesn't treat you too harshly for your bravery.

Comment by Zac Kimmer on February 19, 2012 at 2:15am

Your cousin is just being stupid and he is probably just some insecure tool who is not comfortable with his own sexuality. Men and Women are different and they have different perspectives on life and differences should be appreciated, but trying to pigeon hole people in one group or another in unbelievably ignorant. I find it his perception of a real man offensive.


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