Yep. I sure know how to pick em!!! lol
Long story short - several months ago I started walking with this older gentleman. He's never done anything sexually suggestive and has always been completely respectful. We go walking together.
He doesn't know that I know he's a sex offender. I read up on him and I know exactly what he did and his motivations behind it and what not. He's not dangerous.
But one thing has recently changed. He is wanting my extra computer. He seems to be really bugging me about it. He hasn't had a computer in a number of years. I'm not sure if this is something where he's like relapsing or if he's just ready to have one again....I don't know.....
Should I....give it to him?
I think you shouldn't give it to him. That would be enabling him, and do you want that? Let him do it himself.
I'd like to go walking with you! And I'm safe on a computer. I think.
He can't get his own Internet enabled device? When you hear an alarm bell sounding you don't sit down and work out how you should react. You say you won't and explain no more about it. Never explain, never complain.
Belle I'm dismayed that you haven't considered the terrible consequences to both you and him. Giving him another computer gives him a chance to use multiple devices to maintain anonymity and to mascarcade as two or three different users (who in a group chat can vouch for the reliability of one another when in reality it's just one user manipulating a young person with false security). You can be legally responsible not only for enabling him, but also for the illegal activity he might do while using your laptop. If he uses your laptop to view child porn and gives its back to you...you can be stuck in a nightmare situation if it is tracked to your device. The fact that he's asked you multiple times, (which is highly inappropriate for someone you barely know) this should run off alarm bells. Tell him sorry...but no. If he's a nice person as you say he should respect that and not ask again.
That gives me an idea for a poll...would you rather have a religious sex offender or an upstanding atheist as your neighbor?
I hear a mixed message...
1) I know what he did and he's harmless
2) I don't want him to do harm, which my computer might enable.
So, which is it?
If he's one of those 19 yr olds who dated a 17 year old and was a sex offender for statutory rape...30 years ago, yeah, he probably is not a lunatic.
If he was a stalker abducting young children, etc....not so much a safe guy picture.
What do you WORRY he'll do, if he got a computer, and, what keeps him from just buying one, etc?