I'm an agnostic atheist. My immediate family contains no atheists though. They're all pretty much Southern Baptists, save for a couple Lutherans.
For graduation and my 18th birthday, my aunt gave me a beautiful necklace with matching earrings and bracelets. They're covered in my favorite color (teal) and peace signs, making it the perfect gift for me! I was so happy and excited to wear them. But there's crosses on there, with that hippie design (larger at top and bottom than middle).
I'm so conflicted! It's exactly like something I'd wear, but I'm worried it sends the message that I agree with the odd laws of the Bible or that I'm not an atheist or don't like them. I could live with people not knowing whether or not I have faith, but after my childhood of being raised to refuse evidence, would I want to advertise for that? For a god who, as Carlin pointed out, seems to agree with rape but forbids any profanity of his name?
On the other hand, maybe it's more of a fashion statement. Crosses were used before Christianity for other reasons without carrying any meaning. The necklace matches my clothes and fashion sense so well, I'd hate to just give it to my mom. It'd make me seem belligerent. And wouldn't that be letting Christianity dominate me like it did in my youth? If I can listen to Christian artists without worshiping, can I not wear a piece of jewelry without proselytizing?
Please keep this discussion kind and nonjudgmental. But I'd really like to hear your thoughts.

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Tags: Christian, atheist, cross, family, jewelry, question

Comment by Robert Karp on June 11, 2012 at 8:21am

If it doesn't bother you than go for it. If you can be confident in your lack of belief and still wear it then go for it. The only thing to be careful about is sending out a mixed message to your friends and family. If they know and are cool with your atheism then great but also realize that you wearing that may signal to them you may be finding your faith again. I am like a vampire with crosses I hate even looking at them. However, like I said, if you're ok with it, that should be all that matters.

Comment by Tom Holm on June 11, 2012 at 9:01am
I wouldn't dare be caught wearing a cross, hell I hate to even stop at intersections. If you can get away with it fine as long as you know what's up.
Comment by Alexander Jason Cherry on June 11, 2012 at 11:06am

when I see someone wearing a cross, my opinion of them declines, until/unless I find out that the cross is more a "it looks beautiful" thing.

Then again, what you're describing isn't a stand-alone cross. It's something that has crosses in its design. So, perhaps you won't look like the reality-denier that you'd look like with a cross.

Comment by Henry Ruddle on June 11, 2012 at 11:11am

It's just as easy to see them as funky plus signs. If you wear some atheist jewelry or a t-shirt at the same time, imagine the interesting conversations you'll start. 

Comment by John Jon on June 11, 2012 at 1:05pm

today in this age you see people with big expensive necklaces with a diamond cross, and the person who is wearing the necklace is not a christian,If you are comfortable in your own beliefs and don't mind everyone who sees you thinking you're a christian go ahead and wear it.

Comment by kOrsan on June 11, 2012 at 2:19pm

My priests wear a penis around their necks. You can convert if you want.

Comment by Sean O' Byrne on June 11, 2012 at 3:16pm

If you want to wear it then wear it! People will presume your a Christian but if they ever question you on it you can tell them the cross predates Christian use for millennia before!

Comment by Obfuskation on June 11, 2012 at 6:14pm

If you like it, and the crosses hold no meaning for you, then what would be wrong with wearing it?  I like ankhs, but that doesn't mean I pay heed to the Egyptian gods.

Comment by Ron V on June 11, 2012 at 6:29pm

The cross in our society symbolizes Christianity - for many, specifically the death and resurrection of a supposed person called Jesus.  Personally, I would not wear it any more than I would wear any other religious symbol, but, to me, the symbolism of the Christian cross is utter nonsense and, if equated to human sacrifice, very unappealing.

I think a cross with a noose and an electric chair on the same necklace are an appropriate combination.

Comment by Unseen on June 11, 2012 at 9:31pm

Is it possible to have them refitted so that the crosses are upside down?

If you don't do that, then at least it allows you to operate among theists in stealth mode.


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