Keep in mind, that I have no conclusive facts about what I am about to say. This is just my observations.
We live in a primarily Christian nation, meaning most of those we know are affiliated with some sort of organized religion. Not everybody, but most. But this is about the high cost of funerals.
Not just any funerals.
Last week I had to make the decision to put my beloved companion of over 18 years to sleep. Only I knew it wasn't to sleep. I made the decision to take his life. It came with a lot of drama. Days of crying, not wanting to let go.
But that was my own selfishness. Even though I knew he was totally deaf, I still talked to him. And as the vet told me, even though I thought he could still see shadows, Murray was totally blind. He was suffering, longer than I would have wanted to. Selfish, I know, but it is hard to let go.
Now Murray was just a dog to most people, but not to me. Eighteen plus years is a long time. My one requirement was to bring him home. I had him cremated. It was $193.00 for the vet bill. Just so you know, I live just below the poverty level according to the US Census. It is that important to me to bring him home.
After the initial shock I looked into an appropriate receptacle to place his ashes. Well it seems that I just didn't love that dog enough. There is a price tag on keeping him with me. Minimum of $50.00 to well over $300.00 for a suitable urn.
It got me thinking. In our capitalistic society we still place a dollar value on the lives and deaths of whom we love. An expensive funeral equals a well loved relative. Cheap, not so much. How crass.
Well, I loved this dog. I finally found an antique wooden box on E-bay that will allow me the comfort of having him still with me. $16.25 with shipping.
What does that say about me? I loved that dog. I still love him. I know he is not "In a better place" but I do know he is no longer suffering. My reality is that I am not a wealthy person so I did the best I could .
I still don't understand why we, as a society, should pay such a high dollar value on the death of a loved one. Why in a time of mourning are there those who are so willing to take advantage of our collective sorrow for a few extra dollars?