Came across this which stopped me in my tracks.
Generally, I think we all accept the golden rule - do onto other as you will have them do onto you - as a susinct yardstick of morality. It has popped up in upanishads, confucian sayings and buddhist writings long before the sermon on the mount, many atheist writers refer to it as a social norm which requires no religion - so I think the sentiment is universal to humanity.
But what of this quoted from Oscar Wilde
He rejected the golden rule 'for it makes you take yourself as the standard of what everyone wants, whereas what you should instead do is to see and respect others' differences, and act accordingly'
Well, well - I will be contemplating this, but I may move on from the golden rule!