So over the holidays my sister and her husband come from out of state to visit with Mom and the rest of us. During that time we had a private discussion about theism and my lack of participation. Then my sister says "I really wish you would stop talking to Mom about your atheism. She loves you and can you imagine her hell that she won't see her boy in the afterlife because of your belief." I was a little annoyed that she made a comment like that. So now I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. Should I address my mother's hell and attempt to somehow placate her or just leave it be? I have to be true to myself and not live a lie. If my mother's anguish is real how can I help her deal with it? She has said nothing directly to me about it but has evidently confided in my sister. I wish dear ole Mom could see things differently but her reality is not one without god.