Comment by Sophie on September 20, 2010 at 9:57pm

I regret a lot of things in my life but you are right. I have learned so much from my mistakes in the past. SILLY GUYS!!!! That is what life is all about. Perhaps that is the meaning of life. Learn from your mistakes and becoming a bigger person for it in the end. If you need any support or just someone to chat with I am always here!

Comment by fixedentropy on September 20, 2010 at 10:04pm

Not just "relationships" but yes the inspiration for the post.

I know so many people who don't go after what they want, and it seems the main reason is that they are afraid to fail. Failure is a reasonable outcome,I can deal with things not working out, but not trying at all is just silly.

You will always wonder.

Uncertainty only flies well for me when it has to do with physics ;)

Comment by Sophie on September 20, 2010 at 11:15pm

This might be off topic, but I am am getting to the point of media over saturation over the "theory of everything" and I was curious if you could shed some light or put your thoughts on what makes the most sense to you? (In terms of theory.)

Comment by Morgan Matthew on September 20, 2010 at 11:21pm

I can deal with things not working out, but not trying at all is just silly. You will always wonder.

Truer words have never been said. The word "wonder" for me is something I always ask everyday, and it always, always brings back very interesting results!

Comment by Morgan Matthew on September 20, 2010 at 11:22pm

Good motivational post by the way.

Comment by Galen on September 20, 2010 at 11:22pm

Yes, well, what you describe is how life experience is gained. If we didn't do stupid things when we're starting out in life, we'd never learn from them and never be able to look back on how stupid those things were. It's screwing up when you're young (due to inexperience) that allows us to not screw up quite so much when we're older.

Frankly, if I had the chance to go back and change things, it wouldn't be for the better, lol.

"If I could take it all back now, I wouldn't. I woulda did more shit that people said that I shouldn't." -Eminem

Comment by Kris Feenstra on September 20, 2010 at 11:29pm

Not to steer the comments too far specifically in the relationships vein, but I had a relationship end not so long ago. To end it wasn't my decision, but at the same time, I didn't fight it. We talked, I tried my best to understand where she was coming from, and at some point I said something along the lines of, "I guess all that's left is to try and say anything we'd regret leaving unsaid." We each said something, hugged, and then went our separate ways. Well, that's the gist.

I found it impossible not to second-guess myself after -- regardless of what I think rationally about the relationship being over, I miss her --, but I wouldn't call it regret. Sometimes even making the best choice you can at the moment, trying your best to do what you think is right, you still end up in a place that isn't that fun to be. I definitely made wrong decisions, but it wasn't for lack of good intentions or anything; that's just how it works out sometimes.

I had to learn not to regret things pretty young in life, and it's a lesson I'm still learning. I will only regret things when I look back at a situation and realize I was just running away, but even in those cases, regret serves only as temporary admonishment; it doesn't fix or change anything. If I can go back and fix my mistakes, then I'll go back. If I can't, I have to let it go and move on.

I guess what I could have said in much fewer words is that I strongly agree with your post (and thanks for posting). We can't always choose whether we succeed or fail; but we can chose whether or not we live with conviction and sincerity.

The only recent regret I can think of is watching the movie Remember Me through to the end.

Comment by Morgan Matthew on September 21, 2010 at 12:00am

This is just a more looking back thought but I would have never made Think Atheist if I was still dating the girl I was with at the time. I am so happy that relationship ended when it did as it was a very controlling one.

Comment by Reggie on September 21, 2010 at 1:00am

I have a million regrets. When it comes to the past, it is what it is. And regret can do nothing to change it, so I don't dwell on it.

Comment by Josh Murray on September 21, 2010 at 1:51am

Regrets? Don't really have them as I know I can't go back and get a do-over. Would I have done some things differently? Probably not since my experiences are what have made me the person I am today. Is it possible that things would be better? That's one of those tricky questions since how can you define better and how can you be sure that changing those choices would not have actually led to something worse. Or worse yet, changing those choices may have resulted in you not having the children you have, known the people you know, etc.

I've never been a real fan of "the grass is greener" kind of thinking and that is what regrets are all about - thinking that things could have been better if you had only done this or that. In the end, you can't change the past, only try to be better in the here and now so your future is a little better. My rule is don't have regrets, just make up for what we have done, make amends to those we have done it to and be the best we can to those we have in our lives now.

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