Today in Human Sexuality, we explored the Filter idea of mate selection. We jotted down a brief list of "I want this in a partner" and "I don't want this in a partner." People volunteered to share bits from their lists. Usually thing popped up: confidence, sense of humor, beauty etc.
One (white) woman said she preferred black men. No special reaction, and I wouldn't expect one. The discussion was about personal preference, and there were no judgments on anyone's list entries. (Aside from some inevitable chuckles to shake off the nervousness of a sex class)
I shared that religiousness was on my "I do not want this in a partner" list. This brought shock and gasps from maybe 4 or 5 people, possibly more, in the class. The professor tried to correct me by saying something like "you mean strong religious beliefs?" I said "No. If I were to select a life partner, I would want one who didn't have religious belief at all."
I am thankful that we live in a culture that (fucking finally) accepts interracial relationships. But I was a little irritated at the shock and gasps when I said I would prefer non religious life partner.