I am finding something to be very annoying when I make it known to a believer that I am an atheist.  The person will typically assume that I became an atheist due to me being angry with god or life.  The most recent episode occurred at my job when a co-worker asked me if I was catholic.  I stated no and told this person that I was an atheist.  This person looked at me and stated, "Oh something bad must have happened in your life."  In other words, I must have had an experience which caused me to become ANGRY with god and this in turn caused me to reject him.  This is not the first time a person has reacted to learning that I am a non believer with "oh you must be angry with god".  I find this to be such a condescending reply!  In my opinion, they are basically saying that my beliefs could only come from an irrational and emotional response and there was no way I could come to my belief through reason and clear thought.  In this latest case, I told the person that I am fortunate to have lived a pretty good life overall and my current life is great as well, so I had no reason to be angry (other than with his condescending remark).  I told him I came to my conclusion that there is no personal god through reason and critical thinking.  He just smiled at me when I stated this as if amused by my answer.  Why do so many believers find it so hard to accept that someone can reject the belief in god due to evidence-based reasoning and critical thinking?  I know I am not the only deity denier that experiences this silly reaction from believers, as it is a well-known among atheists that we are stereotyped as an angry and miserable group of people.  I guess I am just starting to experience what other atheists have been experiencing for a long time.  

So let me set the record straight.  

I am an atheist due to the overwhelming scientific evidence in geology, paleontology, and biology that we are the products of a natural process that does not require a god.  

I am an atheist because the bible and other holy books are full of stories which show their god to be anything but all-loving, all-powerful, or just, and who condones genocide, rape, murder, slavery, and many more immoral acts.  It is pretty obvious to any honest person that these holy books and gods were created by humans, not the other way around.  

I am an atheist because I do my best to base my beliefs on evidence-based reasoning, critical thinking, and science.  I reject the notion of faith as it is useless.  How can anything that encourages belief without evidence, belief without proof, or belief in the unknown be of any use to anyone?  Faith is not a virtue, it is something that should be shunned and banned from our lives.

I am an atheist because I would rather say, “I don’t know” than depend on wishful thinking (faith)  or make the general statement “God did it”, when I encounter a mystery or the unknown.  

I am an atheist because all the unnecessary suffering in this world leaves no logical room for a just, loving and all-powerful god.  

My rant is over, but I want to mention that my anger is not with all believers.  It would be hypocritical and dishonest of me to get angry with the stereotyping of nonbelievers if I did the same toward those who worship a god.  I know believers who respectfully disagree with my beliefs without labeling me as angry or immoral.  I can only hope that their ability to disagree respectfully with those who hold a different belief system will rub off on their condescending and annoying brethren.  

George Kiely

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Comment by Grady Jean on July 8, 2012 at 11:14am

I know exactly how you feel! People are always disregarding my beliefs because I'm still young in their eyes, as if a 20 year old cannot make reasoned, rational decisions and have good, solid opinions. Being told that I'm wrong because "I have no life experience" (whatever the fuck that means) has become sort of a rage-button for me. Part of the problem is that they're trying to define something they don't understand, to make sense of it so they can confront it. It's what humans do. I'm sure you and I make our own assumptions about theists that might greatly irritate them in the same way. Doesn't make it any better, but it's something to think about.

Comment by Reg The Fronkey Farmer on July 8, 2012 at 12:17pm

It shows the lack of understanding among Theists for what being an Atheist means. Be they Muslim or Christian they see Atheism as a rejection of their god. They think it is a denial of their gods existence. I have often been asked what bad thing happened to make me angry with their god. The problem is they see Belief as a choice and their gods existence as “obvious”. Many even see it as a life style choice to reject god.
Of course I never rejected Allah or Zeus or what’s-his-name. I just don’t believe they exist. As irritating as it is I try not to get angry with this stupid question. I tell them I get angry when they try to interfere with government policy or teach nonsense to children (BS like Creationism). I then tell them that it is impossible for me to be angry with their god as it does not exist as far as I am concerned. Then I will engage them in a debate and why they as adults still believe it. Once they get angry with me I tell them that I will forgive them and that I will turn the other check on this occasion. If this leads them to giving me the “evil eye” I will tell them a little humility can go a long way. Priceless. Then my anger is gone – lol.

Comment by Dustin on July 8, 2012 at 12:18pm

Yep, sounds about right.  I get this sometimes too.  It doesn't help that my life was in fact abusive and negative - But that isn't what got me to become an atheist because I knew damned well that a God could still exist and be malevolent and treat us as a grand ant farm of sorts.  No, I came to reject the idea of God because it simply makes no sense when you look at the evidence and look at the arguments.  

Comment by Georgie Kiely on July 8, 2012 at 12:21pm

@Grady..Thanks for the reply. I bet if you had a younger relative, let's say 17 yrs. old, who was a true believer they would praise that person for being so wise. Of course, only because it coincided with their beliefs.

I make some general assumptions about theists, but if they gave me the reason they believe I would not dismiss their reasons. My problem is when I explain why I am an atheist they dismiss my reasons as if I don't truly know why I became an atheist. Very annoying!

Comment by Georgie Kiely on July 8, 2012 at 12:41pm

@Reg..I like your technique in handling those situations, I might have to implement it myself :)


Comment by Dale Headley on July 8, 2012 at 2:16pm

My stock answer to this oft-asked, moronic question is brief and to the point:

1) A magic man in the sky makes no sense.

2) Nobody has ever presented even an iota of evidence that such a nonsensical entity could possibly exist.

3) I don’t need one, since I don’t fear what will follow my death.

I must say, however, that I have yet to have anyone imply that my lack of belief is based on any kind of anger.

Comment by archaeopteryx on July 8, 2012 at 4:06pm

The solution is simple Georgie, and you get to play a fun game at the same time - ask in all wide-eyed innocence, "Which god would that be?"

Of course you're going to get the answer that there's only one god - that's when you ask, "You don't believe in Zeus?" "How about Odin?" "Ra?"

And when you get, "No," to all of those, simply smile and say, "Then you're an atheist too, I just believe in one less god than I do!" And walk away.

Comment by Unseen on July 8, 2012 at 5:37pm

Why because you're angry with God? Couldn't you be angry with Zeus, Odin, Krishna, or Ahura Mazda?

Comment by Morgan Matthew on July 8, 2012 at 5:44pm

This is now featured. :]

Comment by Mabel on July 8, 2012 at 6:00pm

I'm an atheist for the same reasons you are Georgie. Besides, how can you be angry at someone you don't believe exists, right? lol


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