I got my first purity ring on my own, when I was still a Christian, in 2010. I understood the basics of the pledge involved---no sex before marriage, basically. I didn't take any classes, as I was away from both home a church to call home at the time, but I still wanted a purity ring. So one Farmer's Market outing later, I found a ring that was perfect---a plain band with a design on it (I later figured out that it was of elephants following each other). I printed out a Purity Pledge, and both of my university roommates signed as witnesses to my decision. The paper was taped to my wall with the greeting cards I got from home, and I really liked that little ring.
Fast forward to 2013, and I'm sitting in the living room of my home, no longer at university, in front of an open laptop. I had spent several months in an abusive relationship at the hands of someone claiming he was considerate, as well as a Mormon. With the "romantic" relationship over, and every chance of friendship out the window as the result of my own personal decisions, I thought about that first purity ring. Because of what happened in that relationship, I thought of my promise as broken. I saw that first ring as a promise made with good intentions, broken by my inability to fight back. So I decided that, in the name of fresh starts and feeling better again, I would purchase a new ring. I was absolutely overjoyed that I had made my promise anew---again, no classes, even though I did go to a church at the time---, and with such a pretty reminder of my pledge.
Now, we come to the present day. Even thought I'm not Christian, I still wear my second purity ring. Sometimes, if an occasion is more muted or casual, I might even choose to wear my first ring, because I still like it. I still don't want to have sex before marriage, and I already dress kind-of modestly without going over the top. I hold hands, as well as give and receive kisses on the cheek, and I feel perfectly comfortable with things. I know that other girls have to take classes, and there are even purity balls to celebrate their decision (for me, it would just have been a massive waste of money, even my family had been more religious).
Am I spreading a mixed message? By claiming atheism, yet still wearing my purity ring, am I giving off a non-committal vibe? I know atheists can have values such as mine without adhering to a religion, but I can't help but wonder if my decision to wear something that has Christian ideals contradicts my current stance.