Well, the other spouse often DOES poison the child's relationship with the other spouse (or Ex, etc), and, sometimes, what feels like a beautiful letter, from an adult viewed with suspicion, via horns effect, etc, can be interpreted as evidence of the negative qualities of concern.
Being in prison itself labels you as a bad person in most people's eyes, children in particular, due to their more simplistic view of the world.....you are where they put bad people, so, you are a bad person, etc.
So, somehow, you let this all spin out of control, and, it cost you big time. Blaming the child for "alienating you" seems unfair though, as she is a pawn either way.
You are the one who violated parole for example, and, had to do more time as a result to re-visit her.
What if you had NOT violated parole?
And so forth.
You are "taking responsibility" for your actions in word only, and don't seem to truly understand/get that it REALLY is your series of poor decisions and judgement, that SEEMS, in your posts, to be the real problem...and that YOU caused the alienation, not your daughter.
Sure, the wife was probably not a fan of yours either...but a lesbian who marries a guy might not be making great decisions either, perhaps she has her own hell she went through, etc...but, LOTS of people have the same starting point you did, including the divorce including sexual abuse allegations, restraining orders, etc, but....
....They work it out and don't end up homeless and in jail, etc.
So, if you think back to each turning point in your saga, you will be able to see your options more clearly with 20/20 hindsight typically...and, realize where you zigged when you should have zagged or whatever.
You can THEN try to figure out what went wrong, and why.....and stop seeing yourself as a victim of fate...but of choices.
We ALL screw up, but spin control/remedial measures help...and, well, you show little evidence of that.
Does any of this ring true for you?
:D
I violated probation 3 times. Defended myself and talked myself out of jail the first 2 times. I take responsibility by writing about what happens to me. Thanks TJ.
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