Want to know my shameful little secret?

I really miss ceremony, all those little motions and incantations to achieve some magical result...

Don't get me wrong, I KNOW it doesn't achieve anything tangible, but dammit! Sometimes a girl just feels like waving around crystals and burning insence and dancing around a freakin' bonfire! Sometimes when I'm furious I want to burn pictures of whoever has done so and imagine the universe collapsing in on them like some sort of eager to please giant dope trying to earn my approval by tormenting those who have tormented me.

I want to dance in the moonlight.

I don't miss gods, but I miss the pretty bits. Science is pretty, but you can't see as well through a telescope while twirling around.

So I think I may do it anyway. Not because I want to believe, but because I want to pretend. I liked playing games of make believe as a child, and I think it could be fun still.

Not Christianity though. The Abrahmic traditions are almost as boring as my Kineseology homework. Their morbid nonsense can suck it. I'll be winging it, bonfires and crystals are pretty, and who says I can't incant about the grandness of the cosmos. If everything is star stuff then why should I be hesitant to celebrate in a way that makes me happy?

You know the best part about being an atheist though?

No one can tell me that doing so is against my religion.


-Carol "Had too much Coffee this Evening" Foley

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Comment by SteveInCO on March 9, 2012 at 11:46am

Bonfires?  Dancing?  Sounds almost "Rite of Spring"-ish to me.

I doubt even Pentecostal stuff would have satisfied your craving--assuming you were still Christian--so it's just as well you aren't!

If you invent something cool we can rip off and label "traditional" until it really becomes so, let us know.

Comment by Geektheist (Rocky Oliver) on March 9, 2012 at 1:04pm

Being a part of a community and feeling like there is a "belongness" for you is a powerful pull. I, too, came from a religious background, and I do like the "pomp and circumstance" aspect of it. Don't get me wrong - I do NOT like the messages, dogma, and hypocrisy found in traditional churches. But I do enjoy feeling a part of a community.

When I talk about ritual I have an example. When I was in the US Air Force I was a part of hte Honor Guard, and I was the firing party commander. My group was responsible for the 21 gun salute, and I brought 3 shells (representing the three volleys of 7 that comprises a 21 gun salute) to the OIC where we placed the shells inside the folded flag and presented it to the next of kin. I loved being a part of that unit; of not being an individual (we wore no nametags for Honor Guard), but being a part of something grander. I know my duties brought comfort to the grieving, and I truly loved my duties as a part of that unit.

I also missed the sense of community and congregation from my old religious days. Because of this (and many, many other reasons) I attend a Unitarian Universalist congregation. I get to be a part of a comunity, I don't have to be a hypocrite (there are many atheists in my congregation), and I find it to be a great place for my kids to learn about religions objectively, including their histories, dogma, rituals, etc.

I know UU is not for everyone; and I know there are many here who would never step foot in a UU church. But I enjoy it, and I am very glad I found it because I truly enjoy being a part of that community.

Comment by Reg The Fronkey Farmer on March 9, 2012 at 4:14pm

It's soooo much better without gods.

The Harper's Song for Inherkhawy (Excerpt)

     So seize the day! hold holiday!
     Be unwearied, unceasing, alive
     you and your own true love;
     Let not the heart be troubled during your
         sojourn on Earth,
     but seize the day as it passes

Comment by Cristynfaye on March 10, 2012 at 2:01am

I always thought it would be awesome to go to Stonehendge or some other ancient sacred place during summer solstice and dance around a bonfire and all that.  One day I shall.

Comment by diggerbanks on March 10, 2012 at 5:21am

There is great benefit to those rituals and I too miss them dearly.

Singing is good for the heart. Singing with devotion opens up the heart.

Repeating is actually good for the brain. Repeating with humble devotion is meditative, calming and envigorating.

Surrender is a great ego-killer. You can't surrender with a dominant ego. Ego restricts spiritual and emotional growth.

And finally just doing things together is great for your spirit, for your group mentality, for your social acceptance, and for just the good feeling of belonging to something that matters.

Comment by Scott Howard on March 10, 2012 at 7:33am
If you haven't already, research your heritage and participate in some heritage festivals. I happened to be in Orlando while the Scottish heritage festival was going on. While I'm not scottish so far as I know, I had a great time and was envious of the clan (that's what Scots call their family groups) members.
Comment by Michael on March 10, 2012 at 7:34am

Atheism isn't dogmatic. Go dance around the fire naked while howling at the moon if you want. Wax poetically about the interconnectedness of life or pretend that there is some deity that will bestow you with magical powers. Fantasy is great, some of us are just able to separate it from reality.

Comment by Scott Howard on March 10, 2012 at 8:39am
Okay everybody! 4th of July party at Michael's place! Clothing and fur optional!
Comment by Ceci on March 10, 2012 at 10:20am

i really miss the time when i believed that i could meet the luckdragon and fly over Fantastica... nevertheless, i still enjoy with children's spirit the vision of Neverending Story and other fantasy films, even though i don't believe in fairytales.

Comment by Virginia Templeton on March 10, 2012 at 9:25pm

Religion is not a reason to do things that make you feel good. Some people just know that some things look crazy and use religious ceremony as a means of making it seem normal. Well forget normal, being happy is way better than being normal.

Personally, even though I know that he will never see it or read it, I burn a letter on my brother's grave as a means of "talking" to him. The only effect it has is making me feel better.  


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