After waking up and seeing that Maine didn't vote for Gay Marriage Rights under Prop 1, something clicked in me. I've never felt that love for an institution. Conservatives claim to want to protect the "institution" of marriage. They want to protect the traditions of America. They want to protect the way we are and always have been. I don't believe we have always been any particular way, and I don't find myself supporting any of these notions.
When I was in 1st grade back in 1980, stop laughing ya bastards, wearing my Buster Brown Shoes and being cool, I remember not wanting to recite the Pledge of Allegiance. I didn't get it. I rejected the notion of belonging to the country.
Today I realized that while part of who I am is dissociative, it's more than that. There are no institutions that i care about. Take Marriage. I'm married because my wife is from another country. We wouldn't have married otherwise. I'm happy to be with her, but I could care less about the marriage or marriage in general. I just want to be with her and help each other find happiness. For me the institution of marriage is a written legal document of convenience. Why would I care about that beyond the legal benefits?
But this applies to a wider picture, and that's where I wonder, "Am I alone in this? Is this common of Atheists?" Of course I'm not alone, but where is the commonality that makes me tick? The bigger picture is that I could care less if Washington DC never existed and the US Government didn't exist. The same is true of my corporation. You name a "institution" and I'll show you something that is nothing more than a tool for me.
I've changed from supporting institutions to supporting people. You say Gay Marriage and I think about the people and not about how to protect the historical definition. You say US Government and I think how do we use them to be sure that my neighbor has equal opportunities. I don't think of how do we protect the Constitutional Definition thereof.
People who protect institutions are against Gay Marriage. They think that prosecutors
that "frame" people ought to be protected. They think that if you are found guilty of a crime, but there is evidence that proves your innocence
, it's still ok if the state executes you. Holding on to institutions over people is yet another tradition and institution that I look at and say, 30 years later, I don't want any part of this.