y, my kid started in a new class room. He is nearing 3 years old in February and already he is ready to move to another class. Now if he can learn to dress and undress himself (besides fully achieving “pottiness”) like the other children he will be on his way. I was so worried about how to teach him to do certain things mainly the basics such as manners, dressing, socializing, but I'm discovering he is learning from the herd. Ah, yes, learning from the herd. The herd comes by any name. Herd of school, herd of government, herd of religion, class, race, gender, all groups are herds. You learn from the herd you most relate to or want to relate to. Acceptance and survival. Two guarantees in all herds you can always count on.
Acceptance that the sheep in the herd will accept you if you look like you want to conform. That could be perming your hair, tanning, wearing crosses, smoking cigarettes. You are in our club but you don’t get a sticker yet because you have to survive in this herd as well. Oh yes. Just because they let you in does not mean you are one of them. You have to go to the in-laws for Monday night dinner every Monday night for life. You have to swear off pork and never touch a succulent pig foot with Red Hots again. You have to prove yourself. You have to prove your worthiness and loyalty. Once you survive them then they can help you survive from the outsiders. This reminds me of bubbles. You squirt disinfected liquid soap on your hands, add water and friction. That’s right. The more friction there is the more bubbles that form, same as in human behavior. I will expound on that another time. But it amazes me how the way herds function. Herding can produce positives and negatives. It can build mighty structures and kill nearly every living thing in sight. But no matter how hard you try to separate yourself from the herd there will always be another herd waiting for you with their arms stretched wide open. This makes me feel sad sometimes, especially when you just want to be alone. But the key word is survival. Without the herd would you exist?
I will continue this discussion on my blog at www.somekindoffunky.blogspot.com.
Thanks for your support and Happy New Year!