(I have to use my phone to write this so excuse any grammatical errors)

Yesterday was a pretty exciting Mother's day in my family. They found out one of their own was an atheist. The conversation started with the killing of Bin Ladin which led the topic of religion. I found it to be the perfect opportunity to voice my opinion. My aunt brought up the radical muslims and their violence. I quickly pointed out that Islam is still a young religion and that Christianity went through the same stages in their early years. I mentioned that it was just part of the evolution of religion. Oh no, I thought, here it comes....

"I didn't come from no monkey!!" Exclaimed my aunt
From there, I tried to explain evolution in the simplest terms. (We share a common ancestor with chimps and bonobos, 99% of our dna..the gene that fused...chemistry, biology, and other sciences all explain evolution...blah blah blah blah blah...)
I quickly realized there was no educating the unwilling. It went right over their heads. My aunt quickly went back to the Bible, asking what about Jesus dieing for our sins. I said, that as of now, I do not see enough evidence outside of the Bible to prove that Jesus actual living.

This conversation continued until finally it was my aunt, my uncle, my nana, my sister and my aunt's uber christian friend (so dedicated, she remained a virgin until she was 35 and finally married lol)

The Bible was brought out to the table and I started to point out the things I found wrong with it. I brought up the final tale of Noah where his son sees him naked and then is sentenced to slavery for doing so. My sister was said that Noah was molested by his son...LOL so my aunt read the passage outloud. It plainly said the son "saw the nakedness" and my sister said well, it's insinuating that he was molested. I quickly pointed out that this was not the case...On the sentencing of his son for slavery..I pointed out that Yahweh saw Noah as the most righteous man on Earth. Then, I asked if she thought slavery was immoral. She had no answer and said that Noah was not God. I could have asked how Noah had the power to sentence his son's generations to slavery but I decided to leave it at that....

The most heartbreaking part was when my Nana asked out all the other people who had died and how she wanted to see her mother again. My Nana teared up which made me do so too. One thing that tears me up is seeing my Nana upset and this was the moment I dreaded the most. I tried to comfort her by saying that I truely hope there is an afterlife but no one really knows what happens after we die. Then my aunt's friend piped into and said "those tears are Jesus calling you back" I immediatly dried my eyes and told her no it wasn't and that I was an emotional person because of my personality not because of Jesus' calling me back.

The conversation lasted about 6 hours. Yes, 6 hours...I was fun. I got to pick their brains and hopefully, they learned something from me. Here are a few more of the things I heard

"You have to have more faith in evolution than you do God" my sister who anthropology class "proved" evolution wrong to her

"I will pray for you everday ON MY KNEES!" My aunt

"Jesus loves you. He still wants you back"

"I ain't no monkey" several times, mainly from my aunt

There was so much more to the conversation. I may write some more about it once my laptop is fixed.

In the end, my family still loves me and still accepts me. I dont think this really changed anything other than a few more prayers for me. I feel a lot better and a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. :)

Now, on to the fundie side of my family!!

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Tags: atheist, coming, family, out

Comment by Walter Maki on May 9, 2011 at 2:16pm
My hat is off to you with utmost respect Scarlette. That took lots of courage.
Comment by Robert Karp on May 9, 2011 at 2:32pm
I second Walter's comment Scarlette! And I applaud your knowledge on the subject and not trying to throw down your non-beliefs in the throats of your family. You handled it with courage, rationality and poise. Well done! Let us know if you get more fall-out.
Comment by Nate Bauder on May 9, 2011 at 2:49pm
I am really happy you felt alot better Scarlette. My immediate family knows I am an atheist, but no one on their sides of the family really knows. I hope that if the time ever comes that I am obligated to come out to them, I have the same courage and knowlege that you had :) More power to you!
Comment by _7654_ on May 9, 2011 at 3:10pm

You did handle a very tricky situation with great skill. If i would have improved, i would have improved on it by adding a Hitchens in regard to vicarious redemption http://youtu.be/Ej-_bIcfUjo  .. you did well stay strong. :-)

Comment by Ciro Galli on May 9, 2011 at 4:06pm
Doesn't it feel glorious. I came out when I was 18 or so (I'm 33 now) so it was long ago, but I still remember it well. What still saddens me is the way that the rational people are always the one to be deffending our lack of belief. That doesn't make any sense. Believers are the people that believe in talking snakes, and that the Earth is 6000 years old and that it was cteated in 7 days. Shouldn't they be put in the spotlight?
Comment by Jason Lamar Sorensen on May 9, 2011 at 5:04pm
I think this is a great step for any of us. Sometimes it feels like there is always someone to proclaim your atheism to, but this is the hardest encounter for sure. Congratulations to you and even if you can't convince them otherwise, maybe you can at least show them that an atheist can be a good person. :)
Comment by Teresa Turner on May 9, 2011 at 6:03pm
I'm glad you had the guts to do that. I'm scared to do it. I think my mom suspects I'm atheist but I don't know for sure, but one of my aunts came out that she didn't believe in God and my mom got so frustrated she threw her waterbottle at the ground and stormed off crying. I don't want to hurt my mom like that, so I'm trying to keep it hush hush and keep my mouth closed when religion comes up at the dinner table.
Comment by Shamari on May 9, 2011 at 6:30pm
Good job and thanks for sharing your story. That must have been nerve-wracking, and I applaud your control of the situation. Hopefully you and your family will still be very close. An invisible man in the sky shouldn't come between people loving each other. I haven't come out yet, but I'm happy you feel alot better now. Good luck to you :)
Comment by Reg The Fronkey Farmer on May 9, 2011 at 6:54pm
Well done Scarlette. That was the best days work you ever did. You have discarded a dead weight and it is only as time passes you will see the real benefits of it to yourself in other aspects of life. It will make you stronger and happier. Theists may try to get you to lose your cool in debates so watch out for their ambushes. They need to do it to justify their faith to themselves. If they see you radiating happiness and calmness it may make them confront their own inevitable doubts. BTW the ambushes will normally be in pack form. If individuals challenge you they are trying to understand you.
Comment by M on May 9, 2011 at 7:00pm
Very nice.  I bet it feels good.

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