This isn't really a call for advice--I kind of just need to vent--although of course any opinions and insights are welcome!
So, I recently just figured out that I am aromantic (this essentially means that I have no interest in being in a romantic relationship). I came out to my mom, and it went really well. We had a great, affirming conversation about it and I finally feel more like myself.
One of the things that came up in our conversation was how I wished that I could talk to my uncle about what I was going through with this new discovery. My uncle, who was gay, died when I was very young, so I never got to know him. And in recent years I've been wishing that I could have gotten to know him more, and I especially want to know what he went through when he found out he was gay, or growing up as a gay boy in the Midwest in the 70s, etc.
Now, my mom believes in psychics and ghosts. And a psychic told her that my uncle was with his nieces and nephews, but he was especially looking out for her youngest daughter (that would be me).
I know that psychics and ghosts are not real. I know that people who claim to feel or see their dead loved ones are just practicing wishful thinking. But part of me SO wants this to be true; I WANT to believe that my uncle is here and looking out for me.
Is it harmful to partake in this fantasy? Is it wrong to pretend that my uncle is with me even though deep down I know he isn't? I'm just filled with so much sadness sometimes that he was never part of my life, so it'd be nice to think that he is.
So, that's my vent, thanks for listening (well, reading). :)