So forgetting my dad had a Facebook account, I listed myself as atheist on my account. I am 23 and live with my boyfriend a town away from them. I thought nothing of it until my parents said it was their greatest disappointment seeing me listed as atheist. Now it's almost Christmas. I want to hang out with them and have fun. And I like going to church just for the music only at Christmastime although they would hate that reason. They say they may confront me and boyfriend about our atheism. We could back up our beliefs...I am just disheartened that this may happen although I don't want to ruin Christmas. I would just hope they forget about our atheism for the time being and enjoy food and playing video games with my younger brother. I suppose I am ruining Christmas too by them knowing we are atheist. This is why I hate Christmas...the conflict of beliefs just gets awkward. I just thought I'd rant for a bit. My younger brother wants us to come on Christmas Eve so I probably will at least. I do anything for him. I hope to have a happy time on Christmas and if an argument results...hopefully we'll all remain calm and explain. Christmas sucks.

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Comment by Dave G on December 22, 2009 at 3:59pm
If they do try and bring it up, perhaps you could ask them to wait until after Christmas before potentially starting an argument, so as to not spoil the day for others?
Comment by Gaytor on December 22, 2009 at 4:10pm
I'd like to take this opportunity to praise Darwin for my family's quiet disappointment. I hope that it goes as well as can be expected for you.
Comment by Jen on December 22, 2009 at 4:26pm
This can be a hard time of year to be an Atheist..
My non-husband and I refused to get into the Christmas part of things this year, but we still do donations, and give gifts to friends. This is my first winter solstice out of the Atheist closet, and I have to admit it has been a chilly time. A few folks have made a point of not inviting us over. "oh we were going to ask you over for a Christmas drink.. but after all, you hate anything related to religion" I guess that it has been drilled into their heads, and so I simply responded by saying. I'm sorry you feel that way" and leaving. I agree with Dave, it is very reasonable to ask them to postpone their discussion with you. Hopefully their love for you overrides their judgment about your beliefs.
Good luck dear.
Comment by doubtingSteve on December 22, 2009 at 4:51pm
I feel your pain. 20 years ago (I was 23), my dad asked me at dinner if I still was a Christian, and I told him that no, I am an agnostic. My mom started crying and…they have never forgotten my comments. They have this big build up that occurs every five years or so where they tell me I am damned and going to suffer in hell because of it. What bothers me is to know they feel so horrible. But we’ve become closer in our relationship nonetheless due to other events in life and experiences. In that regard I am thankful, and I think they are as well. Remember, they will at some point come around to thinking there is a glimmer of hope that eventually you will ‘change your ways’, and for your parents that will be some comfort. Hopefully that will occur sooner rather than later. But yes ask them not to discuss these things over the holidays. I wish you well
Comment by Ashley Will on December 22, 2009 at 9:00pm
Thanks for your comments guys. And that is a good idea about postponing the discussion so everyone can enjoy the holiday...
Comment by Reggie on December 22, 2009 at 9:22pm
Dave is a wise soul.


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