I was reading a few threads and blogs around here and a few stumble sites and started to think, i don't miss god!

 

is this a natural feeling or do some of us struggle with our heart ties to the religion we left. it has been about 6 years for me since i called myself a christian and about 4 since i came to realize i was an atheist. my personal story has seen me go through an angry divorce, find a wonderful new partner and realize how much different my life has become without a god figure telling me what is expected of me.

 

i thought i would feel more of a loss than i have, but I guess the realization of the resolution of many many years of doubt and unanswered questions have brought me to a place where i am quite ok without that seemingly all-encompassing figure looming just out of reach and just out of sight, watching, waiting to strike... and we wonder why the world is full of people with mental issues... but that is for another time.

 

Have any of you found yourself missing god? i miss some of the people i used to hang around with, but i don't have many of them left in my life as they find "other" things to do when i call.

 

please, let me know what you have felt, thought and experienced as i think a discussion like this could be very helpful for the younger atheists struggling in families that attack all of their new found thought processes and struggle with, perhaps, guilt for leaving "the truth" they knew.

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Comment by TheDon on May 13, 2011 at 6:18pm
I don't miss god, but community is something I long for.  That's something I don't seem to have now.
Comment by Alayna on May 13, 2011 at 6:28pm
Not at all.  Being an Atheist is freeing for me.  Now, with that said, I know theres's a quote about Atheist''s finding "god" on their death beds right before it's lights out...so, when I get to that time, right now, I'm not sure how I'll feel.
Comment by Reg The Fronkey Farmer on May 13, 2011 at 7:14pm

When Andy Dufresne in The Shawshank Redemption escaped he may have missed his friends but he did not miss the prison. The joy of being free from religion will far outweigh any sense of loss of fellowship. 

Comment by kris feenstra on May 13, 2011 at 7:31pm
Don't know how much I would have missed my friends so much if I were Andy Dufresne, but I definitely would have missed Morgan Freeman doing voice over narrations of my life.  Man that would be sweet.
Comment by Steph on May 13, 2011 at 7:59pm

I don't miss 'god' and I don't think I ever will. It's only been a year or two for me but I don't think I will ever miss the idea of god. It was such a huge relief when I realised that I had been driving myself crazy (literally) for years struggling with religion.

 

The guilt, worry, etc. was overwhelming as I tried to swallow something which I knew in my heart wasn't true and did nothing but contradict itself. Once I accepted my lack of belief, I began to feel so much better about myself and realised that there was nothing wrong with me. I was (and still am) a good person. As a matter of fact, I'm a better person now than I was then!

 

The god that I was raised on set you up for failure before you even got going. Basically, you're a sinner because you were born that way (and he made you that way), but if you do x, y and z, I might deem you worthy enough to enter my kingdom. Oh yeah, and along the way, I'm going to test you (story of Job, anyone?) and you'd better praise my name all the while or you're doomed to eternal damnation and torture. So do I miss 'god'? HELL NO!!! ;-)

 

If I'm perfectly honest, I miss the idea of living forever. Even though there's nothing I can do about it, it bothers me a bit. However, I think that by the time I die, I'll probably be so tired, it won't really matter. I was dead before I was born and didn't know the difference so I imagine it will be much the same. Also, I'd prefer to be non-existent because it sure is better than living forever in hell since I would never have met god's expectations anyway. Who on earth could possibly meet his expectations? 

 

I'll shut up now but that's my two cents for what it's worth. :-)

Comment by Doug Reardon on May 13, 2011 at 8:15pm
I cannot miss that which I never had.
Comment by Cheryl Pantano on May 13, 2011 at 10:11pm

As a child growing up, I never went to church.  We celebrated religious holidays and was told there was a god, so I believed it.  I liked all the holiday fun as a child, so I did not question anything.  As I grew up, I wondered how people could beleive in this imaginary person  who listened to everyone and answered their prayers.  I think that people have a fear for the unknown and what is going to happen to them when they die. All this drives them to believe in God.  These people to me are stuck in their imaginary world in which they sacrafice things and are controlled by their own fear.  This is no way to live to me.  I feel I am a much happier and free person and don't need societies approval to be accepted.  Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs.  I don't say to anyone, that I am not going to be your friend because you believe in God.  Though, some people may not want to be your friend once they find out you are Atheist.  This is their loss and ignorance.  Here is a link to the Aheist Camel on "Death and Dying"

Atheist Camel: On Death and Dying



Comment by Jeremy Wells on May 13, 2011 at 10:22pm

I don't miss god.  I used to hope I was wrong and even silently desire that god would prove me wrong.  That proof never came and as I became more interested in learning than believing I found a beauty I never realized.  It is beautiful to see how life has evolved over millions of years to create everything we have today.  To know that there was no purpose, but life still found a way to thrive is amazing to me.  There is a peace that comes from knowing that you won't die in hell or face eternal damnation.  I have gained a deeper appreciation for life and a desire to make the most of life while I am here instead of worrying about what my eternal fate will be.  I left religion ten years ago and for years was just an angry person because I felt like I had been lied to.  Over the past several years I have grown as a person and have seen that inquiry is far more fulfilling than assuming I know all the answers.  Religion doesn't supply any answers it just causes people to stop asking the questions.  Once an individual truly searches for the answers they begin to see that mystical explanations are no longer necessary. 

I don't miss the relationships I had during those years because I found that the people I trusted the most were the first ones to jump ship when I started asking questions.  I have realized that the majority of Christians only pretend to be friends because they feel they have a bond due to the group delusional thinking.  Once a person begins to think for themselves they are no longer a part of the "in group" and it is usually the believers that abandon the friendship. 

Leaving religion is like waking up from a dream; at first you try to hold on to the dream and then you hear the birds singing and realize that life is beautiful just the way it is. 

Comment by Cheryl Pantano on May 13, 2011 at 10:38pm

Well put!

 

Comment by Freek on May 14, 2011 at 4:43am

Looking back on my life, I don't think God meant that much to me (I've been Christian my entire childhood). 

I used to be religious (pun intended) about reading a chapter of the bible every day and pray before going to sleep. However, the moment I stopped doing that, none of the guilt I had expected showed.

I've never felt any warmth from God or after prayer. But I did find out that when you take matters in your own hands and do something about an issue, that gives the satisfaction a prayer never gave me.

So no, I don't miss God. Although if he turned out to be real, I would like to get to know him (literally in the sense as how I would like to get to know any person, I'm not going for any 'knowing from a book' crap).

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