Comment by David on February 2, 2009 at 5:11pm

i have been married for 18 years, and i can attest to the fact that yes, it is real. What takes its place is a growth in the relationship other than sex, which leads to new better sex...
If your relationship is not growing outside of the bedroom, it will stagnate and grow dull.

Comment by chiz on February 2, 2009 at 5:21pm

If I could relate, I wouldn't admit it.

Comment by Nelson on February 2, 2009 at 5:59pm

i risk sounding condescending when i comment on your age so forgive me at the outset, please. i mean no offense when i say that because you are young you likely haven't refined through having several relationships what it is exactly that you're looking for in a person.
see, i was young once too and i got bored really easily. i admit that there was a period there even just a couple years ago when i was bouncing from girl to girl getting bored so quickly that they were basically just sex partners- i don't feel bad about it because i was honest and upfront about my feelings, never led anyone on, and i always used protection. don want no baby momma drama or to have my junk drop off!. but after some time you begin to refine your idea of what you want in a person and in a relationship and that means that when you find a person you think has a chance to be someone you could be happy with then things are already more exciting and easier to keep exciting.
so yes, it happens, it's natural. you're not alone. things will get better with time and experience.

Comment by Andrew the Fluffer on February 3, 2009 at 10:16pm

I suggest reading "The Female Orgasm."

There are countless reasons you may not be having an orgasm: the ambiance, too much on your mind, he's going to fast... et cetera. Also, something a lot of people don't know is that 75% of women do not have orgasms from fucking; they need stimulation on their clitoris to orgasm (from fingers or tongue). Have your guy focus on giving you an orgasm first, and then let him do his thing (he'll appreciate it, as your vagina will be engorged and feel better for him). You don't have to cum at the same time; cumming at the same time is extremely difficult. Don't work too hard or think too much, and don't rush. Communicate: ask him what he likes, and tell him what you like. And do it. Experiment!

Good luck! There are solutions!

Comment by Frink on February 4, 2009 at 9:50am

I get bored all the time, but I try to keep myself busy with other things that aren't marriage related. But then again, right now she's 9 months pregnant and any sort of prolonged contact can be chalked up to poking the bear. I'll get back to you after then new baby arrives.

Comment by Pam on February 4, 2009 at 10:19am

I'd consider why I'm bored in the first place. Is it becoming routine? Is the attraction not there?

And go with Andrew's suggestion about communication. Your guy might agree that it's dull and help think of ways to liven things up. ;-)

Comment by Sniz on February 4, 2009 at 12:36pm

I kinda know how this goes. Sex can be good...but still boring. I think it is just because we are young tend to go at it like rabbits with our partners, so it gets old. Maybe try taking a break from sex for a while and focusing on the emotional part of the relationship. If your bond gets stronger and you remember why you love the person so much, the sex will get better.

Comment by Mark on February 4, 2009 at 12:57pm

Well sex can be like sushi. There are so many things to sample, you can order one of everything eat them all and not really find the experience remarkable. You kinda have to slow down and savor it, I can spend a long time on just one piece of salmon enjoying the taste, texture subtle flavor combo's going on with it and the soy and wasabi.

I recommend(especially since you said you done everything you can think of) going back trying things again but really try to savor and enjoy them. Spend time figuring out what you really enjoy and why. It may not improve the relationship, but the sex will be better, and hey nothing wrong with that :-)

Comment by Sophie on February 4, 2009 at 2:10pm

I have never been bored ...there have been awkward moments... but that may be because I have only had sex a handful of times. I am very selective and picky and there is no reason why I should not be. I think it is very important to get to know your partner as much as you can before you have sex. Sex screws alot of things up fast! Perhaps you ditch this guy and meet someone new and it does not look like your going to have a problem and just be best super best friends and then have sex. If you can not control yourself, then you are going to feel this way for the rest of your life. Hope that helps.

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