When someone leaves Christianity, why are other Christians so quick to blame them or the church?
I recently had a discussion with a Christian via YouTube PMs, and while she was very nice, she had one little flaw. She had to blame me/my family/the church for my leaving Christianity. She insinuated that our entire doctrine was faulty, that I had been forced into Christianity, and that I had never felt Jesus or God in my life. She said that she believed that I was a "false convert because of all the early influence & pressure to 'be a Christian'". Before I wrote to her with my entire life story, she also insinuated that I was angry at God for messing something up in my life.
If the people of my church had heard from this woman, they would have called her a false convert. "Draw nigh unto God," they would say, "and he will draw nigh unto you" -- which sounds nothing like her "you don't go to God, he comes to you" philosophy. "You worship a false spirit," they would say. She thinks of me as a child, but they would see her as a child, hopelessly stuck in a romantic fantasy of what she wants Christianity to be.
Though my years are less than hers, she has no right to assume that I have not "felt Christ" or that I do not know what Christianity is really about. The fact is, I was somewhat of a spiritual prodigy as a Christian. I began feeling God's presence at about the age of eleven. At fourteen I felt that I was ready to be baptised. The whole time I was losing my faith, I prayed to God, begging for him to contact me and restore my faith or show me where I was to go next. That was the first time that I had begged God for help and found him to be absent.
Forget for the moment that I am nineteen years old and was raised in a Christian home. I was a believing Christian for fifteen years. Don't you think that's enough experience?