Comment by Nelson on September 5, 2010 at 1:33pm

welcome to reality Michelle! and no less a welcome to the community. glad to have you with us.
thanks for sharing your courage and your anxiety about your recent realization and the future of your relationship with your husband.
hope to see you around soon. :)

Comment by BryanPaul on September 5, 2010 at 2:16pm

Welcome to the community. Be sure to let us know if we can help in any way, If you have questions dont hesitate to ask, and again, welcome.

Comment by GodMockingBitch on September 5, 2010 at 3:26pm

Thanks, I have so many questions, it is like I am a baby all over again! I am starting to feel better about myself already and what to know how to overcome the fear that I allowed to be instilled in me. There is no love for any god...just left a fear like something bad is going to happen to me or something. Has anyone been through that here?

Comment by kelltrill on September 5, 2010 at 4:25pm

Hi, Michelle. First off, a very warm welcome to this site :) You'll find a wide variety of skeptical people on here from different places of the world who have been through exactly what you're going through now. I myself was raised secular, so I've never had to go through the difficult process of deconverting, although I've shared similar concerns and questions which have led me to similar conclusions independently. Remember, it's always better to have too many questions than too few. I really hope things work out for you and your marriage. Interfaith relationships can be difficult, but if you both truly love each other, are mutually understanding and genuinely want to make things work, then I don't see why things shouldn't work out for the best :)

Comment by BryanPaul on September 5, 2010 at 4:48pm

Ok, let me post again. I was brouht up in many religions. My aunt took me to pentecostal church, I went to baptist and... well basically I went to many churches and I've read the bible from cover to cover and YES at first I had this feeling of fear for my doubts.
Then I started researching the facts. I didnt see the discrepancies in the bible by myself but watch youtube and read Richard Dawkins and Christopher Hitchens. If you look enough it's not hard to see the bible is full of......problems.
The truth is after you have enough evidence you start to wonder how every theist doesn't see the truth. Good luck in your search for reason. Your gonna find more info than you think, but thats good!

Comment by James on September 5, 2010 at 10:45pm

Welcome to the site Michelle! Thanks for sharing your story and I hope that you can find answers to help you with your journey through critical thinking and reason.

Comment by Galen on September 6, 2010 at 3:20am

Welcome to the site, Michelle, and indeed a hearty welcome to reality! It's scary at first to realize that we're just spinning out here in space with nothing protecting us or loving us from on-high. But the more you learn, the less scary it seems and the more of a relief it seems. You now know that nobody is listening to your thoughts and judging you for every stray feeling. No, there are no guardian angels, but there are no avenging angels either. There is no Heaven, but there is also no Hell! No God to watch over us and love us, but also no God to cast us into eternal torment if we don't follow is immoral and insane orders. Things get better all the time, the more you learn. And even if it doesn't; even if you find the universe to be a dreadful place without any god(s) in it, isn't it better to face that dreadful reality than to keep living a lie just because it makes you feel better?

I can tell you that I'm much happier as an atheist than I ever was as a Christian, and I think you will be too. Good luck on the journey :)

Comment by GodMockingBitch on September 6, 2010 at 10:39am

Thank you all, I feel a very warm genuine welcome here(More than at any church that was interested in my income) ;o) Every day that goes by I feel better about myself. I don't feel compelled to pray. I wake up in the morning and I don't have to preform a ritual. I would like my marriage to work. I have no desire to go back to the bondage of christianity or any other religion. I just hope my husband could experience the freedom I am experiencing now.

Comment by Atheist Exile on September 8, 2010 at 12:00am

Hi Michelle,

My wife knew I am an atheist and I knew she is a Catholic before we got married. We recognize an irreconcilable difference in this regard but, otherwise leave ourselves open to whatever may come. Religion doesn't have to be the be-all and end-all of relationships. One might call our compatibility into question but, to us, it's not a big deal.

If religion doesn't get in the way, then there's no reason to give it more weight than all the other facets of your relationship. As far as I can tell, there's always trade-offs and nobody is really a perfect match.

Love is the main thing.

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