I was curious what experiences other people have had when they tell members of their family they don't believe in the religion they were raised in.
I was raised Jewish and started having doubts in middle school. I was scared by this because I was always taught to believe in Judaism and all my friends from temple never seemed to have any doubts. I remember thinking to myself that after my Bat Mitzvah I would have some kind of revelation and it would all make sense and I would stop having these doubts. And that never happened. That's when I really started questioning my faith.
My dad was raised Christian but didn't particularly care about religion. My mom was raised Jewish and raising me Jewish was important to her so my dad was fine with it.
I told my dad I was having doubts and didn't really consider myself Jewish. He said he would support whatever I chose to do and would help me learn more about other religions if that was what I wanted.
My mom had two reactions. First: you're not old enough to make a choice like that. Second: I'm Jewish and in Judaism the child takes the religion of the mother.
First one: I'm a freshman in college now and my mom still wont accept that I'm not Jewish. So when will I be old enough?
Second one: WTF! I just told you I don't believe in Judaism so why the hell would I care what religion Judaism tells me I am!!! This logic just astounds me with its stupidity.
I'm curious what reactions other people have had from family members and how they dealt with it. Did those who initially rejected your choice ever come to accept it?
Not only that, but after this my mom tried to force me to go to temple more and even as I got older and it was harder and harder for her to force me, she became much more active at her temple. My dad said she blamed herself for me not believing in Judaism. As a child I went to a Jewish preschool, I went to Hebrew school since kindergarden, I had plenty of Jewish friends, the temple I was a member of is a very great place and I loved all the people there. I made a choice that had nothing to do with her.
So that was a lot more rant-y than I planned, but oh well.