You can tell how well you are doing in giving your children the right sense of "Family" (capital F) when all the children shout in unison their reply when asked....................
Well let me explain.
We are all at the family farm this weekend and next week, eagerly awaiting birth of my sister's third baby (Nina is her midwife). My parents are gradually easing off running the family estate and handing over to my sister and hubby Geoff who left the army last year to learn to start running the business. My parents and sister's family all live there now. My sister already knows farm management having grown up with it and my bro-in-law comes from an english farming family and is a "jolly good egg" as they say, so its in good hands.
Sorry I digressed a bit........
So here we are with a dreadful dilemma, Tante Carol is about to produce sprog number three and in our family birth of babies is a big deal, trust me, and it happens that the children's favourite film is about to birth its first sequel, the risks could not be higher !
We are a family that does not have TVs in our homes. Visit our house and you will not find a drone's box anywhere, nor my parents freshly converted 15th barn, nor my sisters sprawling farmhouse - not one. But we do have movie nights once a week on friday or saturdays, via a projector and laptop or a visit to the movies. There is one movie above all that gets requested, and by the adults as much as the six children that make up our households, fourteen if you count close relatives and it has just been released here in the Netherlands. Back on the family notice board at home in Maastricht each day for the last few months Nicky has been careful crossing off the days on the calendar to release and tonight is the night we go to see it. The seats are booked, Pathe Rembrandt in Arnhem has been warned, Taxi's readied, snacks arranged, Thunderbirds are go !
So true to form this morning at five am my sister comes to our bedroom and wakes a grumpy Nina (Not a morning person). She is experiencing a few contractions. This is the one approach that instantly wakes Nina, all other approaches usually fail - kids jumping on the bed, the buzzing of my vibrator as i try to drop an obvious hint to her, the dogs licking her face demanding their walk, attaching a baby to her breast to nurse would all normally fail to stir her but tell her "I am having contractions" and she instantly wakes - "the midwife force is strong in this one, yesss !"
A quick check under my sister's hood, as it were, and Carol is warned off a visit to the cinema tonight as the time is approaching.
But now Oh-Oh, how to deal with the other expectants ?
At breakfast this morning the children are informed that Tante Carol will not be able to come with us, but we will all still be going. Then the big question,
"If her baby does start to come while we are out at the movie do just Mama Nina and Oom (Uncle) Geoff leave and go home or do we all go home right away ?"
It was a moment that made me so proud. They all shouted "Huis aan tante Carol !" (home to aunty Carol)
I really thought the long awaited Despicable Me 2 would win, but very happy it did not.
I really do hope we get to enjoy Despicable Me2 and that little one waits until tomorrow to make their appearance but babies come in their own time and as long as both mother and baby are safe and well little else matters. Be assured that Carol will birth at home, her new one will be seen into the world by its little brother, sister and cousins all of whom will go on to what over her/him as they grow up and be faithful playmates for years to come. I am equally sure that the Despicable Me movies will fill many of it's movie nights for years to come.
So here we are, an atheist household whose kids have, at home at least, had no exposure to "christian family values" and yet whose children have come through, able to make judgements based on values developed of themselves. If we continue to do our job as parents correctly they will continue to come to their own decisions for the right reasons, un tainted by the drivel of the bibble.