I've been reading over every ones comments, and I don't agree with all of it; I do agree that maybe I need to change the way I present things or ideas to people.  It was easier before it got so hard (duh) ...I think I'm going through a very militant phase and feel desolated from the rest of the world because I'm stuck in the South.  I took some advice and deleted people from my facebook.  Now, I'm just going to figure out a way to better articulate myself. I'm generally a pretty nice person, aside from my atheist Facebook post, ...but that's MY facebook...ugh...

anyways, just wanted to say thanks to everyone--I appreciate the feedback from like-minded/not identical people.

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Comment by Adam on May 6, 2013 at 3:20pm

You are going through a phase that most of us have already gone through. About 9 years ago, at the age of 16, I became an Atheist. I was very perplexed, somewhat in disbelief of the world around me, but with gradual change, I had began to accept the reality of a godless world. In the real world, out of all my friends, I only have one Atheist friend and one Agnostic friend, the rest are all believers. But when I became an Atheist, I didn't know anyone that was an Atheist, my friend was still a Catholic at that time.It was hard but I learned to be strong for myself and take on the challenges of the obstacles I faced by myself. Since you are in the bible belt and mostly around theists, its ok to feel frustrated about the situation. Just remember when the dust has settled in, and you  have been an Atheist for a lot longer, you will automatically fall into your comfort zone. And you will not feel so alone in your journey to the truth.

Look to the east, and you will see the sun shine, and wherever the rays of sunlight falls, there is an Atheist out there who shares the same feelings as you, though world apart we all are, we are all connected in our struggles and goals. You are not alone and we are always here to help you out.

As I tell everyone in this world, I will tell you the same: May the truth set you free, my friend

Comment by Reg The Fronkey Farmer on May 6, 2013 at 4:32pm

Try not to get angry with them. You end up the loser. There is no point being angry with a god that is not there. I know it is frustrating at times especailly when they are all around you but don't let them wear you down.

Comment by Elizabeth Williams on May 6, 2013 at 6:47pm

best advice ever; thanks Adam!

Comment by Strega on May 6, 2013 at 10:03pm

...and get rid of Facebook.

Comment by Gregg R Thomas on May 7, 2013 at 12:33am

LOL...I'll take two bags of facebook. :)

Comment by Morgan Matthew on May 7, 2013 at 12:35am

Good response Adam.

Comment by archaeopteryx on May 7, 2013 at 4:59pm

Ahh, Belle Rose, aka, Sarah, aka, Jessica - good to see you finally came out --

Comment by archaeopteryx on May 7, 2013 at 5:02pm

RE: "I'm generally a pretty nice person, aside from my atheist Facebook post" - I think, Elizabeth, that it's the anonymity - it allows you to say what you would really like to say, but probably wouldn't, if you actually had to face the person with whom you have a problem. A little sass is a good thing, but all things in moderation - including, moderation --

Comment by Misty: Baytheist Living! on May 7, 2013 at 5:07pm

I'm related to believers. 

I even like some of them. 

It's very hard to have a functioning relationship. 

When I notice a bit of tension forming in any relationship, I've found that taking the ball into my own court and addressing the issue upfront is usually pretty helpful. 

Starting a conversation off with, "Hey, we have a very different set of beliefs, but I really value our relationship. Let's figure out a way to interact without upsetting one another......" 

My own coping mechanism for dealing with stupid is to set clear boundaries and be consistent with them. Those boundaries are dependent upon the person and our relationship. Some folks don't get engaged. At all. Ever. If they aren't capable of rational discussion, they aren't capable of holding a conversation, so I won't fall into the drama.  I use a technique called 'blanking' for those people, and my boundary for them is physical. If they bring 'it' up, I give them a two second long blank look, then turn on heel and leave their presence. 

Gentle but firm, just like training a puppy. 

There are others where we just have an agreed upon time-out system. Anyone can change the subject at any time for any reason by just  holding up their hand. 

It depends on who you interact with and why. I mean, these tactics don't work if you're being harassed by an employer or whatever. But for interactions that you control? Control them. 

Comment by archaeopteryx on May 7, 2013 at 5:29pm

RE: ""Hey, we have a very different set of beliefs, but I really value our relationship. Let's figure out a way to interact without upsetting one another......"

What a perceptive approach! Yea, you, Misty!

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