I post a lot of things about being atheist on Facebook; I realize this.  I live in the South immersing me right in the center of all religious perversions.  I have people delete me almost daily because of the things I post.  None of this ever really bothered me because I live a moral, ethical life and if someone didn't want to be digital friends with me because of my beliefs; so be it.  

It was different this time because it was one of my real life friends.  Someone that knows me, and knows how good of a person I try to be.  Cannot be friends with me because of my beliefs.  I'm generally a very insensitive person most of the time, but this hurt my heart. 

I'm becoming more and more of a militant atheist, and it's hard for me to even hear things about Christianity without getting heated in my head.  I need to move. 

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Comment by Ray R. on May 2, 2013 at 2:36pm
Indeed , the Christian Taliban can be quite evil .
Comment by angela kozma on May 2, 2013 at 4:12pm

It hurts when people you have allowed yourself to be open to make you regret it.  I have lost a few friends since well choosing to be atheist. Some were my choice and  some of it was theirs. doesn't make it less painful though. I apply the if they were really my friend they would see me for who i am good and bad and still like me for me.

Comment by Reg The Fronkey Farmer on May 2, 2013 at 4:49pm

I have had lost friends over my Atheism. Not because of any attempts to persuade anyone but just because I am an Atheist. It often seems to me that some are preoccupied with my Atheism. It seems to fascinate them. One friend said “You are the last person I would expect to be an Atheist”.

It would be ok if I was just “non-religious” but the fact that I am an Atheist is a step to far, if you know what I mean.  It is just that the word “Atheist” still conveys ideas of Satanism or bad morals etc. So while some will ask me about it others will run. Funny thing is it is the “real” religious ones I remain closest to while the ones that “de-friend” me are the pious ones (bigots more often than not).

Anyway if you (we) end up with just 1 or 2 close friends then we are ok. You will know your friends when you need them. When the chips are down your true friends will be there with and for you. More often than not you will be pleasantly surprised at whom they are.

The problem with many Christians is that they are not very good at practising Christianity. They will talk the talk but have little time for their neighbours if they are not blindly following the same god.

I think I will open a Facebook a/c. It sounds like fun.

Comment by Jason Woolsey on May 2, 2013 at 6:18pm

2 Thoughts

The first is that I think I do this too.  I think I become more militant as time goes on and perhaps I choose not to associate with people who are too religious.  I have many friends and family who are religious (unfortunately) so I don't make that decision based on a label but on the actions or situations involved.  I don't think I have ever decided to kill a friendship over it but I do tend to invade people's comfort zones and it can cause problems.

The second thought is I have had people react negatively towards the Atheist label and I think that comes from some negative connotations that aren't really true.  I think when most people talk about being Christian for example what they really mean is that they believe in doing the right thing...they don't go to church or pray all the time or make terrible decisions for religious reasons but they call themselves Christian.  I take issue with how that term gets thrown around because the confusion it causes when they hear about an Atheist is that this person doesn't believe in doing the same right things or that there is such a thing as a "right thing" in the first place (right changes based on the person you talk to). 

I think it can be hard to make Atheist statements on social sites like that because the comparison between a religious statement and a non-religious statement is so different.  If you make a religious statement you'll likely get a lot of agreement and "God Bless You" type comments and it doesn't seem inflammatory...it can seem unifying.  However, how can you make a similar unifying statement that accomplishes the same goal on the Atheist side without seeming inflammatory or argumentative?  This is something I struggle with too.

Comment by Gallup's Mirror on May 2, 2013 at 6:51pm

Try Vermont. Less than 50% of Vermonters are religious. Best statistic in the country.

I have that from a reliable source!

Comment by Adam on May 2, 2013 at 10:34pm

Don't worry my friend, you may lose friends on Facebook, but here in Think Atheist you are gaining many friends and we accept you for who you are ;)

Comment by Kairan Nierde on May 2, 2013 at 10:48pm

Vermont is a strange place form what I hear. Got their own movement for secession. Who woulda thunk?

Comment by Dr. Bob on May 2, 2013 at 11:01pm

It always saddens me when people are ignorant of their own faith.  I apologize for the behavior of some of my Christian brethren, @Elizabeth.  There is nothing in Christendom that justifies shunning a friend for their belief, or lack thereof.  True Christians would say that the behavior of your former friend is sinful and shameful.

It can be hard living in an area where the cultural majority holds different beliefs than we do as individuals, no matter who we are.  I know it was hard for me in the past.  Some people who face that challenge, like the young Chechens in Boston, respond by becoming more militant about their beliefs.  I'd gently suggest that is not a good answer.  Better to seek out friends who live their values and are accepting of yours, and try not to be too judgmental of the ignorance or shamefulness of the rest.

Comment by Strega on May 2, 2013 at 11:13pm

When it comes to God, Vermont’s just not that into Him. Or Her. Our ranking as America’s least religious state was reaffirmed by a Gallup poll in February[2013] that indicated only 23 percent of Vermonters consider religion an important part of their daily lives and attend religious services every, or almost every, week.

There you go, Gallup :)  It's what you get if you Google "the godless state"  The full (very full, actually) article is here

Comment by Gallup's Mirror on May 2, 2013 at 11:17pm

There you go, Gallup.

Thus my reliable source speaks and demonstrates once again what makes her so reliable. ;)


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