I'm an agnostic atheist. My immediate family contains no atheists though. They're all pretty much Southern Baptists, save for a couple Lutherans.
For graduation and my 18th birthday, my aunt gave me a beautiful necklace with matching earrings and bracelets. They're covered in my favorite color (teal) and peace signs, making it the perfect gift for me! I was so happy and excited to wear them. But there's crosses on there, with that hippie design (larger at top and bottom than middle).
I'm so conflicted! It's exactly like something I'd wear, but I'm worried it sends the message that I agree with the odd laws of the Bible or that I'm not an atheist or don't like them. I could live with people not knowing whether or not I have faith, but after my childhood of being raised to refuse evidence, would I want to advertise for that? For a god who, as Carlin pointed out, seems to agree with rape but forbids any profanity of his name?
On the other hand, maybe it's more of a fashion statement. Crosses were used before Christianity for other reasons without carrying any meaning. The necklace matches my clothes and fashion sense so well, I'd hate to just give it to my mom. It'd make me seem belligerent. And wouldn't that be letting Christianity dominate me like it did in my youth? If I can listen to Christian artists without worshiping, can I not wear a piece of jewelry without proselytizing?
Please keep this discussion kind and nonjudgmental. But I'd really like to hear your thoughts.

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Comment by Mabel on June 12, 2012 at 1:15am

I wouldn't dare be caught wearing a cross, hell I hate to even stop at intersections.

@ Tom - LMAO!

Comment by Kelsey Hayes on June 12, 2012 at 2:26am

If you want to, then go for it. What the cross symbolizes to others isn't as important to what it means - or, in this case, doesn't mean - to you. 

Besides, if anyone comments, you can always clarify.

Comment by Lindsey on June 12, 2012 at 2:49am

I wear an Om necklace even though I'm not Hindu because it's a beautiful piece of jewelry and it was given to me by someone I love a lot (who also isn't Hindu. I don't know why she chose an Om, but whatever). No one who knows me at all would ever mistake me for religious, and I don't really care what strangers assume about my religious beliefs. But then again, a lot of people who aren't Hindu don't really know what an Om is. You wouldn't believe how many people have asked me why I'm wearing a 30 around my neck.

Comment by IEatDinosaurMeat on June 12, 2012 at 3:35am

I mean, if you like forms of capital punishment hanging from you I guess it's alright... A little morbid if you ask me...

Comment by Diane on June 12, 2012 at 6:30am

Do you know any funky artists who could alter it in some way while adding to its beauty?  I thought it was interesting reading people's reactions to this question, and noting my own.  I would not want to dignify the cross with the honor of displaying it, even if I told myself it had nothing to do with Christianity and was simply an artistic element in the design.

Maybe they could be changed into some stylized bacteria with fancy flagella?  Now that I'd proudly wear.  Bacteria are something in which I can believe.

Comment by Emperor Milos on June 12, 2012 at 8:13am
I agree with Mr. DinosaurMreat. If anyone asks, you are a fan of ancient torture methods.
I would also have a toothpick at all times to symbolize impaling.
Comment by SteveInCO on June 12, 2012 at 9:35am

Bacteria are something in which I can believe.

My dad would get these horrid paisley ties from his mother as gifts and would wear them when she was visiting (he thought they were horrid too).  I used to call them paramecium ties.  (And the thing is, in my family everyone got it!)

Comment by Meg Fields on June 12, 2012 at 11:14am

You could always take the crosses off and put different pendants on (Micheal's craft store has awesome pendants pretty cheap) depending on the necklace. I mean, it's up to you. A few months ago when I was in a bad place in my life, one of my best friends at the time sent me a charm bracelet with beautiful charms made from gemstones. My only issue with it was there was a cross made of amethyst. I just took it off and rearranged the charms so it looked even, problem solved. Good thing about jewelry is it's customizable. 

Comment by Doug Reardon on June 12, 2012 at 10:04pm

I've always found it interesting that about 70% of porn stars wear crosses.

Comment by Lewal on June 13, 2012 at 2:16pm
Hijack it like capitalism did Christmas. By using religious concepts, we dilute there meaning, changing the very concept itself. It's happening all around us. I've KNOWN people who wear crosses and, when asked, say that they "just like it." They're stripping it of its meaning, unknowingly tearing down Christianity little by little. It's as beautiful as it is sad.

If I were you I'd tell people you're just a really big fan of crucifixion as a form of punishment.


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