It has been a while since I've shared a conversation with a friend on here, it's been a while since I've had one to share. Most of my friends have come to accept my lack of faith and religious debates with them have been sparse. There is the usual nonsense from my family of course: Bombarding my facebook page with god nonsense, pleas to return to god, comments of my goodness being a sign that god is working in my life...the usual unremarkable statements that everyone new here posts about…Continue
I have labeled myself an atheist for the past two years.
Two years of denying the gods of the people around me, two years of abandoning religion. Two years of arguments and tears and explanations.
Still, I find amazing peace in being godless.
"So when you look in the sky you see nothing..."
Someone once tried defining my lack of faith as a lack of wonder. Because I don't see gods I don't see joy or goodness. I tried explaining that they were…Continue
As a woman, as a mother and as a student surrounded by creative young men and women, I am often chastised by others for not being tolerant of religion. I am told that being an Atheist requires just as much assumption as being religious and that in my dismissal of all faiths I am ignoring the good that religion brings into the world.
I do not believe that there is any good that religion, any religion, is doing in the world.
I think that every faith promotes ignorance,…Continue
Ugh, so it's been an entire month of holiday garbage. From the passive aggressive nature of my family during their meal time prayers or my parents trying to shove their Catholic bullshit down my young son's throat.
I want to scream at them, but I don't. I keep the peace and don't respond to their faces how angry they make me. So here it is, every response I have kept in my head.
"No mom, I may not believe in Jesus but I still like celebration because it is time I get to spend…Continue
It's been a long time since I've written anything here, and if I felt like reaching into my magic hat of bullshit excuses I could blame any number of things, like writing and directing shows, or who knows what.
The truth is I've just been cowering. I've been huddled in the corner of a theological no-man's land. That place where many of us shift uncomfortably in our seats, often not wanting to speak for fear of misspeaking. It started a few months ago.
My grandfather died. The…Continue
If you've read my blog in the past you've probably seen my furious rants about my idiot of a best friend. You know, the one who has called me morally inferior and hell-bound?
Well after exactly a decade of being loyal to him in spite of his special brand of bullshit, we are no longer friends.
He sent an email to my husband (not me) telling me that we were no longer friends. No reasonable explanation, just some ridiculous babel over wanting what's best for me because he felt he…Continue
Recently a good friend's mother died. It was very sudden and heartbreaking.
My friend is an atheist like me, and I can only hope he isn't being flooded with the usual garbage of "She's in a better place," or "She's watching over you now."
I remember when I lost my grandmothers I was filled with this pain, this realization that these wonderful women were inaccessible to me. Unfortunately I was religious at the time, and my first years of grieving were filled with guilt and…Continue
My mother recently came to visit me. She spent the past 4 weeks pushing her religious garbage onto my son when, after she told him how god would want him to act, he responded, "Nana, god isn't real! God is bad!"
So while I was at school she made him recite prayers and tried to scare him with godly behavior (he's always watching and all that crap.)
If I were agnostic then I doubt I would care so much, but this pernicious seed of belief could ultimately drive a wedge between me…Continue
Oh come on now, you know where this entry is going. If you've been an atheist for any amount of time beyond a few days, someone WILL ask you a variation of this question.
Why don't you pick on the Hindus?
Why don't you pick on the Pagans?
Why don't you pick on the Buddhists?
I used to think that this sort of question was a defense mechanism, someone cornered asking why we big bad atheists are picking on one of the Abrahamic traditions (I have a soft spot for…Continue
Want to know my shameful little secret?
I really miss ceremony, all those little motions and incantations to achieve some magical result...
Don't get me wrong, I KNOW it doesn't achieve anything tangible, but dammit! Sometimes a girl just feels like waving around crystals and burning insence and dancing around a freakin' bonfire! Sometimes when I'm furious I want to burn pictures of whoever has done so and imagine the universe collapsing in on them like some sort of eager to…Continue
You may have finally begun to notice that our little family sticks out from the rest of your relatives. I don't drag you to church on Sundays, you may have been baptized but you haven't followed through with any other sacrament, you have never been to midnight mass and most of all, your momma doesn't pray.
Some of our family will try and tell you that I am short-changing you, I expect that as you grow older that the pressure for you to join them on Sundays will…Continue
As I have stated many times, I am not a scientist, but I appreciate science as the key to the shackles of religion that once bound me. So I try to be science-minded.
I am a writer though, so I think about words a lot. I like to ponder word taboos, fifty (or more) years ago breast and thigh were too scandalous for public use so companies selling chicken came up with the labels white and dark meat. Now we can say a little less than half of Carlin's "Seven Dirty Words" on television,…Continue
Added by Carol Foley on February 18, 2012 at 1:49am — No Comments
Gay Christians give me a headache.
Ugh, I know that sounds small minded of me, and that's really not what I am going for here, but I can't help it. See, I'm a gay rights advocate and a bit of a hag (I'm in theatre, being a hag is second nature to me,) so I'm constantly arguing with the religious on behalf of my gay friends. The "Campus Crusaders" and I have shared many words about homosexuality and morality and my atheism is pretty obvious about five words in.
So when a gay…Continue
I re-posted this image on facebook: When people ask why I have a problem with religion...
Which has triggered the following argument with my Catholic Parents:…Continue
I love writing, it is in fact, my first love. It came along as I realized how terrible I am at art and how very tone deaf I truly am.
I can express myself better with written words than I can with spoken language. I have been told it is usually the other way around.
So I want to write a book about something. I don't want to write fiction because, well, I don't feel like mashing my words into whatever pop-garbage the best seller's list is demanding. I want to…Continue
Added by Carol Foley on January 14, 2012 at 11:00pm — No Comments
So I'm not a closeted atheist. I bring up my atheism almost as much as my friends bring up their Xtianity. I know because I try and keep the ratio even. This means I mention my atheism almost five times daily. It is an absurd amount for someone who is not politically significant or really even socially relevant. I'm a half Hispanic mother of 1 in Texas. I register so low on the sociopolitical scale that I may as well be mute.
Screaming into a hurricane, that's what it feels…Continue
What a year for me.
I'm sure the rest of the world had it's ups and downs, it was one of those years where I simply couldn't avoid the news (no matter how hard I actively try to) and I am a worse person for it.
So I am told.
My atheism became very personal to me this year. How could it not be? Family and friends alike have accused me of moral inferiority because I don't bow to imaginary friends.
Religion truly offends me, but I don't try to start arguments, I just…Continue
Dear Children Born in the 1980's,
I am writing to tell you that we are finding ourselves in a very interesting position. In less than a decade the oldest of us will be eligible to run for president of the U.S. The youngest of us are in their twenties, they can buy alcohol and cigarettes and are no longer at the age where doing so is an act of rebellion.
Truth be told, we're getting too old to qualify for "youthful rebellion" and have moved into the realm of being furious…Continue
I haven't felt angry in a while, I mean I've been annoyed and stuff, but nothing has really poked at the white hot rage center in about two months.
Except this one thing...
My mother is living with us until later this month, how this came about is a long convoluted story, but ultimately she is living in the house my husband and I are paying rent on.
I have a three year old son, and he is simply fantastic, he's bright and funny and loving. I am constantly amazed at his…Continue
Added by Carol Foley on December 4, 2011 at 10:39pm — No Comments