I feel like I am about to boil over and burn.
Some back story...because I don't know if I've mentioned this before, though I'm certain I have.
I was molested by my grandfather when I hit puberty, so was my older cousin...so were many of our friends before it happened to us, and after. My grandfather felt up a little girl at my grandmother's memorial service.
When he died I was thrilled. Not relieved, not filled with the urge to forgive, not at peace...
Dear Mom and Dad,
As you have known for years, I am an atheist. I'm not the strongly worded, well educated physicist that you imagine when you hear that term. I know less of stardust than the strongest voices of the movement.
I am not "angry at god" I am not "trying to justify a sinful life." I am as boring as I ever was, and my typical day has less to do with my lack of belief than trying to get my son to sit down and do his school work.
Do not take my lack of rage as a…Continue
Okay so my post about my religions class has ruffled a few feathers and inspired quite a bit of rage. Yes I agree that the assertion that atheism is a religion is ridiculous and that the professor should read more before making claims about us... The story I shared was not supposed to be about the professor's slip, stupidity happens, and I don't expect him to know everything. Furthermore I think calling out the big dogs to shut him down will do two things:
I'm taking a world religions course. This isn't in an attempt to see if I can detach my retinas via eye-rolling but in a sincere effort to know the opposition. When someone asks how I can say no religion works for me I want to be able to give an answer.
I still live in Texas though, so every single religion touched upon is compared to Xtianity. The class is 90% Xtian, there are 3 atheists and a Buddhist, but the rest all smugly remark on the folly of n religion to their own.…Continue
I study fairy lore.
This isn't a statement about studying religions of the worlds or anything, I actually spend quite bit of my free time researching and reading about fairy mythology. I find it interesting.
In a way, fairies were the original gap fillers. Those things that acted with no understandable rhyme or reason, things that killed babies or blighted crops. Called the "Good Folk" so as not to offend them. I love reading about them. I have volumes on the…Continue
Sometimes I feel like people have their brains stuck in the mud.
I had a conversation with a friend who placed the blame of the fall of Rome squarely on the shoulders of homosexuals. When I explained to her how that was historically inaccurate, she then leaped into an accusation of how the repeal of DOMA will upset the human eco-system.
Before someone asks, she did not offer an explanation, perhaps because she felt it was self-explanatory.
Her mother is of the same sort…Continue
It has been a while since I've shared a conversation with a friend on here, it's been a while since I've had one to share. Most of my friends have come to accept my lack of faith and religious debates with them have been sparse. There is the usual nonsense from my family of course: Bombarding my facebook page with god nonsense, pleas to return to god, comments of my goodness being a sign that god is working in my life...the usual unremarkable statements that everyone new here posts about…Continue
I have labeled myself an atheist for the past two years.
Two years of denying the gods of the people around me, two years of abandoning religion. Two years of arguments and tears and explanations.
Still, I find amazing peace in being godless.
"So when you look in the sky you see nothing..."
Someone once tried defining my lack of faith as a lack of wonder. Because I don't see gods I don't see joy or goodness. I tried explaining that they were…Continue
As a woman, as a mother and as a student surrounded by creative young men and women, I am often chastised by others for not being tolerant of religion. I am told that being an Atheist requires just as much assumption as being religious and that in my dismissal of all faiths I am ignoring the good that religion brings into the world.
I do not believe that there is any good that religion, any religion, is doing in the world.
I think that every faith promotes ignorance,…Continue
Ugh, so it's been an entire month of holiday garbage. From the passive aggressive nature of my family during their meal time prayers or my parents trying to shove their Catholic bullshit down my young son's throat.
I want to scream at them, but I don't. I keep the peace and don't respond to their faces how angry they make me. So here it is, every response I have kept in my head.
"No mom, I may not believe in Jesus but I still like celebration because it is time I get to spend…Continue
It's been a long time since I've written anything here, and if I felt like reaching into my magic hat of bullshit excuses I could blame any number of things, like writing and directing shows, or who knows what.
The truth is I've just been cowering. I've been huddled in the corner of a theological no-man's land. That place where many of us shift uncomfortably in our seats, often not wanting to speak for fear of misspeaking. It started a few months ago.
My grandfather died. The…Continue
If you've read my blog in the past you've probably seen my furious rants about my idiot of a best friend. You know, the one who has called me morally inferior and hell-bound?
Well after exactly a decade of being loyal to him in spite of his special brand of bullshit, we are no longer friends.
He sent an email to my husband (not me) telling me that we were no longer friends. No reasonable explanation, just some ridiculous babel over wanting what's best for me because he felt he…Continue
Recently a good friend's mother died. It was very sudden and heartbreaking.
My friend is an atheist like me, and I can only hope he isn't being flooded with the usual garbage of "She's in a better place," or "She's watching over you now."
I remember when I lost my grandmothers I was filled with this pain, this realization that these wonderful women were inaccessible to me. Unfortunately I was religious at the time, and my first years of grieving were filled with guilt and…Continue
My mother recently came to visit me. She spent the past 4 weeks pushing her religious garbage onto my son when, after she told him how god would want him to act, he responded, "Nana, god isn't real! God is bad!"
So while I was at school she made him recite prayers and tried to scare him with godly behavior (he's always watching and all that crap.)
If I were agnostic then I doubt I would care so much, but this pernicious seed of belief could ultimately drive a wedge between me…Continue
Added by Carol Foley on May 9, 2012 at 1:14pm — No Comments
Oh come on now, you know where this entry is going. If you've been an atheist for any amount of time beyond a few days, someone WILL ask you a variation of this question.
Why don't you pick on the Hindus?
Why don't you pick on the Pagans?
Why don't you pick on the Buddhists?
I used to think that this sort of question was a defense mechanism, someone cornered asking why we big bad atheists are picking on one of the Abrahamic traditions (I have a soft spot for…Continue
Want to know my shameful little secret?
I really miss ceremony, all those little motions and incantations to achieve some magical result...
Don't get me wrong, I KNOW it doesn't achieve anything tangible, but dammit! Sometimes a girl just feels like waving around crystals and burning insence and dancing around a freakin' bonfire! Sometimes when I'm furious I want to burn pictures of whoever has done so and imagine the universe collapsing in on them like some sort of eager to…Continue
You may have finally begun to notice that our little family sticks out from the rest of your relatives. I don't drag you to church on Sundays, you may have been baptized but you haven't followed through with any other sacrament, you have never been to midnight mass and most of all, your momma doesn't pray.
Some of our family will try and tell you that I am short-changing you, I expect that as you grow older that the pressure for you to join them on Sundays will…Continue
As I have stated many times, I am not a scientist, but I appreciate science as the key to the shackles of religion that once bound me. So I try to be science-minded.
I am a writer though, so I think about words a lot. I like to ponder word taboos, fifty (or more) years ago breast and thigh were too scandalous for public use so companies selling chicken came up with the labels white and dark meat. Now we can say a little less than half of Carlin's "Seven Dirty Words" on television,…Continue
Added by Carol Foley on February 18, 2012 at 1:49am — No Comments
Gay Christians give me a headache.
Ugh, I know that sounds small minded of me, and that's really not what I am going for here, but I can't help it. See, I'm a gay rights advocate and a bit of a hag (I'm in theatre, being a hag is second nature to me,) so I'm constantly arguing with the religious on behalf of my gay friends. The "Campus Crusaders" and I have shared many words about homosexuality and morality and my atheism is pretty obvious about five words in.
So when a gay…Continue