I am an atheist from a Catholic background with a 'mostly' lapsed Catholic husband and two small kids. I will follow my Catholic roots first and make a confession... on the birth of my firstborn…Continue
"I agree with Kenneth. I think if you let your children know that they have a choice on the matter of religion (which already destroys 9/10ths of indoctrination because that's pretty much what indoctrination is all about, it's more about…"
"Yup, think I am just going to keep on with the delaying tactic as I have been.
With any luck the economic crisis will mean that my Mum doesn't have a spare $300 lying around to bribe the priest this time round!"
"There are plenty of reasons for getting married that have nothing at all to do with god!
My husband and I got married because:
We were in love! And wanted a symbolic gesture of our love and commitment to each other, both for ourselves…"
"My apologies; I don't know why I was reading that it was your mother-in-law.
Having severed all ties and communication with my own mother, I guess I'm not the most reliable judge for how others should handle theirs! To me, that really…"
"I have tried broaching this subject on several occasions in a non-confrontational way with my husband, trying to determine his real motives for wanting the baptism.
He has long ago stopped talking religion with me as he finds it uncomfortable, but…"
"I would like to add that I do NOT think you are making something out of nothing. While the vow and ceremony is empty to us, that doesn't mean we should just let the religious have it all their way. Should we allow mandatory prayer in public…"
"I say don't do it. Heck, if your husband's family wants to hold to tradition, then *traditionally* a child takes his mother's religion. In your case, none! Of course that's not likely to go over very well, but it's a funny…"
"The question is not whether or not I can but whether I should. Certainly I am physically capable of lying through my teeth to a priest if I have to, after all it wouldn't be the first time!
And yes, I suppose this is more about me…"
"I still think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. On top of that, you are taking something which should be more centred around your child and making it about yourself. If the time came to explain why you allowed the child to be baptized…"
"In my head a vow is a vow, even if it is made to my husband's imaginary friend.
I was baptised and recieved first communion like all the rest of my family, by the age of confirmation I already had enough doubt to drop out of confirmation…"
"But the vows are just as meaningless as the baptism itself. You're not signing a legal document saying that you must do X, Y and Z otherwise you go to jail. It is otherwise you will face God's wrath, which as an atheist you shouldn't…"
"Well this was part on my thinking the first time round, it's a meaningless ceremony for me, and for the baby of course since he or she doesnt have a clue what is going on. Also on the plus side you get 'Godparents' of your…"
"It is funny how much people make out of something to insignificant. If your family is being pushy and wants to sprinkle magic water and oil on your baby's head then let them. It does nothing in the long run, your children's view on…"
"Thanks for your reply!
My husband is pushing for a baptism, but not, I suspect, out of any real religious convictions, more that he feels pressure to do the 'right'thing in terms of our society, our family, and our community. …"