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Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Tom Apr 4, 2012. 38 Replies

I live in a deeply religious family and in our culture family bonds are very strong. Now that I've become an atheist I often wonder if its a good idea to tell them this and cause problems or just…Continue

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Tom replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"I would maintain your current stance. Ultimately, "coming out" is only a good thing if it serves an obvious purpose; it is unlikely you are going to convince your town of the merits of atheism, so the purpose must be your family. I have no…"
Apr 4, 2012
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Mar 29, 2012
archaeopteryx replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"Gary - you may live on the other side of the globe, but you're only a keystroke away -- pax vobiscum,archaeopteryxwww.in-His-own-image.com"
Mar 27, 2012
Gary Phua replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"Thanks everyone for the advice and encouragement. This really means a lot ! 3 Days left before the visit . Lets see how that goes.....  "
Mar 27, 2012
archaeopteryx replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"Mason - Gary and his parents are from Singapore - I've had friends on Singapore, and their "conversion" came from when they were an English colony, hence they don't share the Puritan ethics we Americans, regrettably, have…"
Mar 27, 2012
mason Lane replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"I think a lot of it will be if they are religious moderates or fundamentalists. If they're moderates they already don't demonize other religions and beliefs. If they are fundamentalists they demonize everyone different from them, including…"
Mar 27, 2012
Grady Jean replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"It sort of depends...if you're still young and living under your parent's roof, I'd advise against "coming out" out all. It's horrible, but for some people, religious parents can be absolute monsters when they find out.…"
Mar 27, 2012
James Cox replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"I was about to say something, I thought witty, but held back. Any where you go, if you have any difference of opinion or even perspective, the local folks can make it hard for you. They want some degree of metaphysical certainty, if all you have is…"
Mar 27, 2012
Morgan Matthew liked Gary Phua's discussion Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?
Mar 26, 2012
Gary Phua replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"Thats a good point. Feels easier to say than suddenly declaring you're an atheist. Hmmm I never thought of that"
Mar 26, 2012
John R. replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"Well I'm new here and already like it!  I have a similar dilemma though with a few more complicating factors, namely my 3 beautiful children (ages 8, 5 & 0.7).  I have ALWAYS had doubts in christianity even as a teenager but like…"
Mar 26, 2012
Brenda Riggs replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"That's too funny!  "
Mar 26, 2012
Robert Karp left a comment for Gary Phua
"Welcome to the Think Atheist community Gary! Join us in the chat on the bottom right of the screen and feel free to ask questions and get involved as much or as little as you want! Welcome again and make yourself at home!"
Mar 26, 2012
Tom replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"Tell them that you don't believe in God, but if it is the case that he exists and is the creator, he constructed the genetic sequence that has eventually led to your own genetic makeup--the proximate cause of the way you process information,…"
Mar 26, 2012
Reg The Fronkey Farmer replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"I would not engage in a battle with them. Maybe a better wording would be to not allow them to escalate it to a battle. You do not need to explain why you don’t believe or what you may believe instead. You just no longer believe what they…"
Mar 26, 2012
C Elaine Clark replied to Gary Phua's discussion 'Does anyone have any advice on how to come out( as an atheist) in a deeply religious family?'
"Why do these deeply religious people have to control us (mostly as we are in our childhoods) I never believed and just didn't pray when they prayed and never sang when they sang, I never forced my belief ( of non belief on any one)  as an…"
Mar 26, 2012

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At 3:54pm on March 26, 2012, Robert Karp said…

Welcome to the Think Atheist community Gary! Join us in the chat on the bottom right of the screen and feel free to ask questions and get involved as much or as little as you want! Welcome again and make yourself at home!

 
 
 

  

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