"I always ask myself "If I tell this person, is it serving my own selfish desires in such a way that it makes their life worse?"
This is exactly my reason for not disclosing my personal philosophy to everyone in my life. I…"
"I hide it from most of my family and my mother tells me not to discuss religion with people down here in the south cuz shes scared someone will end up killing or hurting me. So I sit there and just think how ignorant people can be."
"Well, last time I talked to my grandmother, I mentioned that I was going to continue school to study philosophy. She replied that philosophy is a worldview and that she'd be praying for me. Judging by the way she responded to that, I decided…"
"I don't hide my views from anyone. I won't go and introduce myself as an atheist, but if the topic does come up I don't shy away from defending my beliefs.
And most of my family know. They kinda inferred it from by behavior when I was…"
"I used to be in the same situation as yours. I disclosed it to my dad and mom just recently only to see them shell-struck ! But I think they are gradually coming to terms with it.
Well, rest of my relatives have taken me for an outcast. They…"
"I did, I read it several times before I replied. I suppose you value your grandparents even knowing that you'd have been disowned for being yourself, had they known of it. Knowing that, I would have disliked them tremendously for being archaic…"
Thanks for your advice, but it is misplaced.
Please read my post again.
I actually was raised by my grandparents. They have been dead for about a decade. I kept my secret and to this day have no regrets. We had a great…"
"My grandmother isn't a zealot. She's very open-minded for an older person. She'll be 92 this year.
I hide it from her, mostly because she's senile. She has early stages of Alzheimer's Disease. If I told her, she…"
"I never thought I would be in the "closet" about anything. Even here in the heart of the Bible Belt, I normally would not hide who I am. However... my mother had a stroke two years ago and I returned home to care for her. (She is much…"
"It's probably mostly a matter of circumstances. As far as atheism goes, I had it pretty easy growing up. Neither of my parents were (or are) religious, and my community and social circles were mostly pretty liberal and open.…"