About two weeks after my 21st birthday last month, my mom died of cancer. I come from a Catholic family but I've privately been an atheist for about a year, and as a result, I don't believe in heaven…Continue
"I'm so sorry for your loss, Ciara. My father-in-law passed away last year, and we have been dealing with the same issues, so I know how terribly difficult it can be.
I strongly encourage you to seek grief counseling. I…"
"Hi Ciara, I can relate to what you're going through, my mom died a few years ago, six days after my birthday, and I too miss her dearly. How do I cope? It's simple really, Heaven is in the Heart, her laughter, her smile, it's all here…"
"Thanks everyone - all your advice has been solid, grounded and realistic, which is what I'm after, so thank you, sincerely. I know people giving religious-related words of comfort really believe that and are being completely genuine, but I need…"
"I’m truly sorry for your loss. I lost my father as a teen and although I wasn’t extremely close with him, I can slightly relate to your issues. Have you tired writing as a therapy? It helps in the same way people find prayers comforting.…"
"Allow yourself to grieve. Regardless of your belief or lack of belief, everyone grieves at such losses, and grief is a journey. Cry when you need to cry, and laugh when a fond memory strikes you. Let this loss wrap its arms around you…"
"Hi Ciara. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain you must feel. As you said, things will get better with time and your mom does live on in you, in your memories. Those are real and you own them.
Try to keep yourself busy…"
"Sorry to hear about your loss. Just remember that everyone deals with death in their own way. Religious people will deal with it that way, which doesn't help you of course. Remember, though, that to greater or lesser degrees they may be…"
"I can't fathom to imagine how much of a loss the death of your mother is. My deepest condolonces, from someone that recently also lost a loved relative, my grandmother.
My advice: try as much as you can to not make this unfortunate time about…"
"First let me say I am so sorry for your loss. Secondly as a widow, people say some of the dumbest things to someone who has lost someone special. As for the idea that your mother will always be with you, I tend to think that is true and here is why.…"
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"let me start with a question. Who are U ? u probably know as you are an atheist that u are not some soul. You are made by the environment, the surroundings, all the memories you have acquired right from your birth and the way you see the world. So…"
I'm glad that I didn't overstep with my comment. I hope that you find your legs again soon. Not to be cliche, but it gets better. I lost my dad 18 months or so ago, but I'm 37. So the trials of early life as an adult wasn't a part of that hurdle in life for me. Happy to help anytime!