Hi Alexandra. My name is Graham. I saw your post about having someone religious raise your child.

My son will be 9 years old this year. We gave him up for adoption when he was 3 days old. I was 17 then and his biological mother and I knew we couldn't give him the life he deserved. A teacher at our old high school adopted him. I didn't know it at the time, but the family is very religious. My son has been raised in a christian family. Sometimes it kind of bothers me; knowing that he's been indoctrinated into the religion. But I am hopeful that he will someday find free thought and rationality the way I did. That said, when I have seen him these past many years, he always looked happy and I know the adoptive parents are very nice people.

Since you not only know the possible adoptive parents, but they are family, then you may have a great level of interaction with your child. You may be a source of inspiration for free thought in your child's life, as long as your aunt and uncle allow it. Even if they would prefer you avoid directly religious conversation, you could still teach the child how to question thoughts. I'm not sure what level of interaction they would want, but the fact that they are willing to adopt your child is pretty awesome for them.

In the end, of course, this decision is yours. If you choose adoption, then just know that there are many others of us who have done this as well. It is a very hard path. During the first few years, I would almost cry every time I thought of my son. I'm now at a very comfortable place personally with my decision. I am very happy he was adopted and I hope someday he has a very joyous life.

welcome to the community Alexandra! glad to have you with us. make yourself at home. please don't hesitate to let me know if you have any questions or concerns.
hope to see you around soon and frequently! :)