Here is my dilemma. My sister in law was the only help I got in taking care of my wife. For the last couple of weeks she came to the house and spent the day with her while I was at work. She is a very nice person but she is a born again christian. Her husband was a pastor at a born again church before being retired. It seems the born again church wants to start being christian by helping people instead of being born again, meaning identifying yourself by your racism and homophobia.
I asked her a couple weeks ago what they talked about while I was at work. It seems like her time with her sister was more positive than my time with my wife. I feel like I 'did' for my wife while she was able to talk to her and spend time with her. She wants to get together to talk about it. Her and her husband and me and my son go out to eat. I am afraid they will throw a whole bunch of god shit at me at this meeting. I don't want to fight. I have never declared myself atheist but I have never faked a faith message. Like Amanda I just kind of smile and ignore the 'blessings' and pray for you comments. I just don't think I can be proselytized to or take a whole bunch of "in Gods hands" nonsense.
I wanted to put my story out there online just in case there is another mom who needs to know that they are not alone. My daughter (age 7 at the time) was diagnosed with stage 3 Wilm's tumor in June 2012. She completed treatment in January 2013 and is doing great. However, most of the support forums online are populated by very religious people. I am an atheist, and it has been difficult to relate to other people who trust that it is "god's will" to give a child cancer, and that whatever happens they should just accept it as a part of his plan. I do NOT believe this of course, and if there is anyone else out there who is having a similar experience, I wanted them to know that I understand what they are going through.
Oh! and if you want to get in touch with me, here is my daughter's caringbridge site: http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/helenaduntley