Pornography
Since my discussion on monogamy, I have realized that most of you think that cheating is wrong and monogamy is the only way to go (unless, of course, you have an agreement with your partner to be open).
I would define cheating as sexual stimulation, whether it be oral or just plain out intercourse, by someone other than your partner. Some say that watching pornography is cheating. I guess I can understand that, in some cases, porn could cause a partner to fantasize more about the women/men in the videos and find themselves less attracted to their partner.
My question to all of you is:
What do you define as cheating? And, more importantly, Is pornography cheating (especially if the spouse doesn't approve of it)?
Skip Sanders
Reverse cowgirl - gray area
Belgian snow-cone - cheater
Apr 8
Clayton H
I define cheating as anything that goes against the "relationship contract." For example, if your partner makes it clear that they believe simply looking at another woman ie porn is cheating and you agree to that then either a.) you agreed because you wanted to have sex with her and you plan on dumping her after you are satisfied with her. or b.) you genuinely are promising her that you will no longer watch porn. Suppose a. is true then there is no need to worry because even if she finds out you were "cheating" on her then there is nothing to worry about because you didn't plan on it lasting for too long anyways. If b, however is true and you end up looking at porn for whatever reason and she finds out then technically you are cheating on her because she made it clear that she believes it is cheating. With that said I would point out that if a girl is so worried about you actually having sex with another girl that she has to ban pornography so you do not even think about it then either I am going to go with option a above or I am going to cut it off right there. Most likely cut it off because I do not think it is right to do option a to a girl.
Apr 8
Misty Rollans
My hubby is Active Duty Air Force so I am used to long work hours and deployments along with both of those comes the use of porn. Most of the time I don't mind that he watches port but there are times that I feel that he hasn't tried to spend enough time with me and I do get angry at him. As long as you are not keeping your porn use from your spouse or partner I see no issue with it.
Apr 8