I just need somewhere to vent...

It's not really about religion and I don't know what advice anyone could give, but I just need to talk about something regarding my family and I don't have anyone to talk to right now. I am 30 and still living at home until May when hopefully I can move out. Thankfully we don't talk about religion so I can keep my atheism a secret from them for now, but it's still not a happy living situation for me. My mother is the kind of person who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for her unhappiness. My 20 year old sister steals any alcohol she can find in the house and had been known to go through our things to find some. I am tired of the excuses and the lying and the pretending to want help. I cannot help someone who doesn't truly want it. Right now I am trying to survive until spring. I have a new job and I'm trying to save up money. One day I hope I don't have to hide my self (or my stuff). Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. I just need to feel like I'm not alone for a little while.
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    Simon Paynton

    "My mother is the kind of person who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for her unhappiness. My 20 year old sister steals any alcohol she can find in the house and had been known to go through our things to find some."

    Are these things linked? 

    "I cannot help someone who doesn't truly want it."

    That's true.  Maybe if you didn't try and help her so much, she would help herself.  Another thing is, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.  Perhaps the best way to help her is to help yourself.  That's when I've been helped the most in life - when other people get their shit together, and either it inspires me or directly helps me.  It sounds like she could do with a good example of how to behave.  Somebody who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for their unhappiness is not centered or acting like a star or being responsible for themselves. 

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      Simon Paynton

      Throwing ideas out to you here.  Have you seen this

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        deepthought42

        No, but that does seem to fit very well. I finally moved out recently, which I am everyday grateful for. I only wish my parents did not have to continue to deal with the drama my sister causes, but I can understand they don't want to give up on her. Perhaps as she gets older, she will come to understand how much they have done for her. 

        As for me, small doses of my mother's negativity are more bearable knowing I can go home to my quiet apartment.

        Work keeps me busy - but I am glad to have a job, so no complaints there. I know that I would never want to move back home. 

        Maybe now I can meet up with fellow non-believers in the Baltimore area. :)