I just need somewhere to vent...

by deepthought42

Oct 17, 2012

It's not really about religion and I don't know what advice anyone could give, but I just need to talk about something regarding my family and I don't have anyone to talk to right now. I am 30 and still living at home until May when hopefully I can move out. Thankfully we don't talk about religion so I can keep my atheism a secret from them for now, but it's still not a happy living situation for me. My mother is the kind of person who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for her unhappiness. My 20 year old sister steals any alcohol she can find in the house and had been known to go through our things to find some. I am tired of the excuses and the lying and the pretending to want help. I cannot help someone who doesn't truly want it. Right now I am trying to survive until spring. I have a new job and I'm trying to save up money. One day I hope I don't have to hide my self (or my stuff). Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. I just need to feel like I'm not alone for a little while.
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    Kairan Nierde

    I'm so sorry to hear things have gotten worse. Can you put a lock on your door? Maybe your sister needs to spend a few nights in a shelter? You should feel safe in your own home! Please stay safe and keep in mind you are not responsible for your sister or your parents.

    Feb 14

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      Simon Paynton

      "My mother is the kind of person who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for her unhappiness. My 20 year old sister steals any alcohol she can find in the house and had been known to go through our things to find some."

      Are these things linked? 

      "I cannot help someone who doesn't truly want it."

      That's true.  Maybe if you didn't try and help her so much, she would help herself.  Another thing is, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.  Perhaps the best way to help her is to help yourself.  That's when I've been helped the most in life - when other people get their shit together, and either it inspires me or directly helps me.  It sounds like she could do with a good example of how to behave.  Somebody who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for their unhappiness is not centered or acting like a star or being responsible for themselves. 

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      Feb 15

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        Simon Paynton

        Throwing ideas out to you here.  Have you seen this? 

        Feb 16