Coming Out Godless: What's Your Story?


Coming Out Godless: What's Your Story?

We all come from different backgrounds & have different reasons for identifying ourselves as atheist or agnostic.

Whatever your story is, we'd like to hear it. Please share & encourage others who are considering "coming out"!

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Comment by Angela Gorman on December 12, 2010 at 8:34am

I was born into a roman catholic family and believed all the hokus pokus, threats and fears which that church now abuses people's minds and hearts with. I have now been reborn and am enlightened in that I now believe that we are born, we grow up, eventually die and that is it. The fact that we get through birth and life intact is totally down to luck.. some of which we create ourselves. Other factors such as where we are born is crucial and down to luck. In the developing world, many of us would already be dead because of poverty which is not self-created. We live on in our children and create the perceived view of hell or heaven for ourselves and those around us here on earth. I now recognise that the atheists around me are some of the most level-headed people I know and I think it is because of living selflessly in the here and now, without fear of hell fair and damnation.    

Comment by Nathan Hevenstone on December 6, 2010 at 10:25pm
I believe in reality.
Comment by CJoe on December 6, 2010 at 9:51pm
In order to be atheist, you cannot believe there is a god or gods... by definition of the word. It's not a club a person tries to get into or out of. If you don't believe there are gods, you are atheist... even if you choose to forgo the title.

Atheists don't believe there are gods. They are not making a definitive statement about the possibility, however. They do not state "there is not god" but simply that they do not believe there is. No more than you believe there are unicorns. Could there be? I suppose. Is it likely? No. We have not been convinced there is a reason to believe so we don't. It's very simple.
Comment by Aliqsandre Suguitan on December 6, 2010 at 8:02pm
So Atheists do not have to believe that there is no God either.

Or do they have to believe there is no such thing as God?
Comment by CJoe on December 6, 2010 at 6:14pm
Ali, have you read any content on the site? Just curious. Your question can be answered in many, many ways.

For starters, atheists do not believe "in" anything. Atheists are all different, so there is no one unifying "belief". The only thing any of us definitely have in common is a lack of belief that there are gods. We all have different values; each of us has chosen our own purpose. If we are passionate about a specific cause, we become activists (LGBT rights, women's rights, civil rights, environmental protection, etc) and what drives us is, generally, betterment of the world. Some atheist, however, just like to float along and enjoy the ride; enjoy what this life and this planet have to offer while they're here.

Your question can only be answered by each individual atheist, because our values and priorities are all different.
Comment by Aliqsandre Suguitan on December 6, 2010 at 5:46pm
Atheists do not believe in God.

What do they believe in, anyways?
Comment by Angela Gorman on November 5, 2010 at 7:48pm
This site is incredibly therapeutic.. I learned when I came out godless, that there is such a value in writing things down, then tearing it up or even better.. put it through a shredder, (no internet in 1986)! It can be painful at times and the more you write, the more you remember about the lunacy of what we were told and how much we feared it all.. eventually it is worth it. It is like a huge weight being lifted off your shoulders and my coming out led to my brother revealing to me that 40yrs before, the parish priest had been abusing him. For me, the questions from some of my believing relatives are easier to answer than the questions were to myself about why I still believed. My life is so simple now and I just try to make life better for other people... changing others by example and showing everyone that we can lead extremely fulfilling lives without the weight of hell fire and damnation sitting on our shoulders. Religion instills fear which sadly manifests itself in the sort of insecurity which you felt Elizabeth. Every day, life will get better and better.
Comment by Elizabeth Peart on November 5, 2010 at 3:19pm
@James: Thank you! Yes, I have a nasty habit of believing that I can't do something for myself or that I'm useless/too weak/stupid/insignificant to do whatever it is I'm trying to do, and so I think this may have had something to do with my clinging to religious belief for so long. It was little better than an emotional crutch, and I've probably achieved more for myself, and made myself a better person by waking up to reality.
Comment by Elizabeth Peart on November 5, 2010 at 2:24pm
This is going to be long-winded but here goes. I come from a pretty typical family, and I was raised by my grandparents (mom worked away from home a lot) and so I was exposed to the choir music and hymns of my (believing) Methodist Welsh grandmother and my Anglican grandfather. I was given the usual kid's Bible when I was small, and so I just accepted the existence of God like anything else I was taught. When I started school, we sang hymns and went to the local church once a week for a service, and the headteacher (possibly one of the best examples of Christianity I have met, a truly wonderful man) taught R.E. i was surrounded also by pretty much all Christian families (with the exception of a single Muslim girl and a Jewish boy) which meant I was pretty much in the whole 'believe in God' thing up to my neck.
Things continued in the same vein, although my family have never regularly attended church or anything like that, until I was probably in university. There I signed up for the Christian Union and a church, and even became a worship band bassist, and did evangelism, gave Bible talks and played in the band.

I guess it all came unstuck due to things that happened to me during university, both to me personally but also to others. One of them was when I became seriously ill with a thing called polycystic ovarian syndrome. Prayer after prayer, time after time spent looking through the Bible for some sort of ánswer. I still ended up spending close to two years in and out of hospital getting treatment. Science, not prayer, is the reason I'm much healthier now, not prayer.

Then a supposed friend betrayed me. He promised me a lot of different things, I waited and waited until it was obvious he was never going to live out any of these promises to me and then called him out on it. He threatened violence, and even showed me violence on several occasions. It sent me to try and commit suicide twice, yet when I turned to my church I was expected to immediately forget this.

I also had in that time my grandfather go through serious illness, a friend of mine attempt suicide and some other stuff.

Another straw came with my historical study of the Bible. Going on YT and other places, as well as reading a lot of books, including most of those of Richard Dawkins, I began to notice a huge problem with the Bible: history doesn't agree with it. I noticed the flaws in the OT account of the Flood, of the foundation of Israel, of the story of Jesus and of the early Church, both from a historical point of view (I studied ancient history) but also a scientific, philosophical and moral point of view. Quite simply, I saw the Bible as junk.

I eventually quit the worship bands, stopped attending church (made easier by the fact I moved away after university graduation) and stopped attending Christian Union meetings. I still haven't declared myself openly atheist but some people in my circle of friends know about it.

I guess in some ways I was too respectful and unquestioning to stop myself searching for God when in reality I didn't need to look for anything.
Comment by Angela Gorman on September 2, 2010 at 7:22pm
The catalyst for me was starting work in NICU.. 24yrs ago. I looked at the babies and thought there can't be anyone who could influence this situation. If there was then I couldn't do my job and remain a believer. I realised there wasn't anyone and that what happened was just bad luck. That's how I did my job for so long. I couldn't understand how parents thanked god when babies were born healthy (indicating to them, god's responsibility for that healthy child) yet they were not allowed to blame god when things went wrong..sorry but god can't take the praise for success, but opt out when things go wrong!

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