Coming Out Godless: What's Your Story?


Coming Out Godless: What's Your Story?

We all come from different backgrounds & have different reasons for identifying ourselves as atheist or agnostic.

Whatever your story is, we'd like to hear it. Please share & encourage others who are considering "coming out"!

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As Diminished as any Good Christian

Started by Lucid. Last reply by Lucid Sep 8, 2015. 3 Replies

Who else is hiding?

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BOOK: 101 Ordinary People Who Left God

Started by Charles Rentz Feb 26, 2015. 0 Replies

How I found my way!

Started by Emily Savannah. Last reply by _Robert_ Feb 25, 2015. 1 Reply

Coming out to my catholic parents

Started by Colleen. Last reply by Roberta Upton Cross Oct 29, 2014. 19 Replies

From Catholic to Mormon to Atheist

Started by Tom Smith Aug 20, 2014. 0 Replies

It was pretty much like this.

Started by Lewal. Last reply by Lewal Feb 26, 2013. 2 Replies

Being an 'out' Atheist at work.

Started by Zombie Atheist. Last reply by Jens Schwaiger Oct 10, 2012. 6 Replies

How committed are you to your atheism?

Started by Anachro1. Last reply by Ken Hughes Mar 1, 2012. 29 Replies

Your god contradicts all I live for.

Started by Sebastian Torren G.. Last reply by Suzanne Olson-Hyde Oct 12, 2011. 2 Replies

Here I Am

Started by Kat Humble. Last reply by Kat Humble Sep 20, 2011. 4 Replies

Another Brit - religion as a dangerous habit.

Started by Helen Pluckrose. Last reply by Steve Sep 4, 2011. 3 Replies

How I Lost My Faith in One Month's Time

Started by Kim. Last reply by Jack Frost May 30, 2011. 28 Replies

I DON'T recommend "coming out" if you're ...

Started by Sadly 'M' iCantSay. Last reply by Patrick Earley Apr 18, 2011. 49 Replies

Where do I go from here?

Started by Kevin Marks. Last reply by LovelyGirl Apr 10, 2011. 3 Replies

i don't think i'll be a christian much longer...

Started by S.S.. Last reply by MikeTheInfidel Mar 27, 2011. 15 Replies

From Bible-literalist Fundie to Outspoken Atheist

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Comment by CJoe on April 13, 2011 at 12:21pm
Thanks for sharing, Samuel. You do have an interesting story. It must be frustrating not to be able to reveal who you really are for fear of being turned on!
Comment by Doubting Thomas on April 13, 2011 at 11:45am

My deconversion is a bit epic. I was a Christian before I became an atheist, from the very start. My mum is more of the believer than my dad and that has always been the case, even though she accepts the fact I am an atheist she very well wants me to be the opposite, my father however doesn’t care which of the two I am provided I am not an extreme atheist or Christian. His opinion is the religious world should never take credence over the real world.

            The first time I came to know God doesn’t act out is the idea given to us that give God 10% and you get more, I came to the conclusion as a kid if I do this cycle long enough I would be rich easy! Didn’t take me long after that (about 8 times in a row) to get the idea the system is you give to the church and get nothing back. From then on the money I was given to give to the church went to my pocket. LOL

            Later in my younger brother’s death when I was about 14 came to me as a blow not deserving, I kinda accepted the idea I/we have a body guard called God and it looked he let one slip by him. I asked my mom why he had to die and she answered ‘it was time’ and ‘God wanted to be reunited with him’ but it was far from satisfactory. I found from that moment on death is cruel and God’s part in it was even more cruel like the man with the gun. My world concept based on what I understood was a protector lead me to conclude God as a protector was a poorly held.

            The only reason that came to me as to why I was not experiencing the power of the awesome being was I wasn’t too good of a believer so I believed more and more till I became a fanatic, I was so taken by the whole thing I thought everyone in our church was good and good-looking and would go to heaven with that oneness feeling. It went as far as is the style of the church to marry people who go to the same church as us, I would prefer to interact with people who go to the same church as me. I even wanted to apply to be tutored to be a pastor, the whole thing thankfully sizzled out, I had more pressing problems when hormones came about.

            I had asthma as a child and my dad not as educated on how it works even to date, back then maybe because inhalers were not a commonly heard term (possibly inhalers didn’t exist back then) meant when I got an attack the only remedy was ventolin syrup, it was slow acting medicine and I had to wait for my father to get home then take me to hospital. To me asthma was like my personal Guantanamo bay with mock drowning. I felt as if every breath I took never fully reached my lungs so I had to struggle to send it in and it made me spiteful and when I learnt God was supposed to have assembled my DNA that made me hate him even more.

            My mother once told me once in between an attack when I felt like the world is coming to an end ‘don’t worry, God will heal you’, I vividly remember thinking 'you must be joking! He’s taking his time Eh? and why wait for a fire to start when he can cure me?’ I didn’t buy it one bit. I came to rely on a sure way of making life better and it was not praying but science, the science of medicine. Some time on I was taken to our pastor who so diligently told me he cured my asthma thanks to God, I gave him the benefit of doubt but an attack later on is more than enough proof to show nothing truly happened.

            When I went to high school I was a free thinker and thats when I first learnt about atheism, by then I didn’t pray that often, knew inertly they were quite inefficient as Christians said some faith some decision on god’s part and some work i need to do as ‘god helps those who help themselves’ meant praying was harder than doing it yourself. I went on and of call it agnostic where I wasn’t 100% sure God didn’t exist i kept asking what if I am wrong, I talked more and more if’s and the probability God existed diminished to negligible so and from then on I never prayed again or participate and agree on church stuff.

            I am an atheist to the core, frankly even if I am to consider minutely a God exists I have to consider ALL gods and that shows the irrelevancy in it so I conclude ‘evidence should lead to conclusion’ not ‘conclusion to evidence’ so if God exists his evidence should point to that and if he’s seriously hiding leads to the question how we even know he exists and why hide when people already know? The believers know don’t they? I am not going to entertain a jargon of logic or words as reason to believe more like a reason to debunk.

            However I am a closet atheist, my atheism is very confidential based on these facts:

1.         I live in Kenya and not only is atheism unheard of, it’s also common for Kenyan’s to alienate, beat up and kill people they don’t like as; gays, hookers, suspected witches and thieves.

2.         I am putting my money more on by family members exile based on the fact;

2.1.   I was called ‘Antichrist’ by friends, alienated and the shock factor is very real on a 10 out of 10 thinking I am crazy.

2.2.   I by accident and chain reaction that followed had my family know I am an atheist and the only person who was understanding is my father and we don’t get along. My mother, big brother and big sister all went berserk when they learnt it and to date my big bro has an ego trip to try and make a person not supported by God (me) through his sabotage feel the pain of no God help.

            I have however had some success, I have made plenty see lack of reason in church ways and they might with time morph into atheist. There are 2 success cases of which both agree and have shown to take into consideration logic of atheism however they’re still religious. The most probable however is my two younger brothers who I entail with the stupidity of the church and religion as soon as I digress into it and so far even though originality or opinion is lacking so I’d call them more like brothers of an atheist than atheists they might take into atheism at least however they don’t feel God is that scary dude who kills or a loving guy.

Comment by Angela Gorman on March 30, 2011 at 3:34am
I told this story early on when I joined this group but I will tell it again. I was brought up as a strict roman catholic, lived across the road from the church, parents and extended family very involved, two cousins who were priests, another a nun. Dare not miss mass on Sundays, no meat on Fridays.. all the old bunkam! Married, had children, encouraged them to think for themselves. Became a nurse, worked in Neonatal ICU from 1986 which co-incided with our two oldest children developing quite radical views. Our daughter wrote an essay on prayer for her school.. it read "I don;t pray any more, it's a waste of time. People only pray when they want sopmething and as everything in my life is finer, I'll leave God's time for those who need it." Needless to say the comments were longer than the essay! We were personally invited to the school by Sr Andrew, our son's RE teacher, who said to me, "Paul has a bit of a downer on the Vatican doesn't he?" When I asked what she meant, she said "He thinks the pope should seel all the valuables in the Vatican and feed the poor!" She looked stunned when I said "To be honest Sister, I don't have a problem with that!" As time went on and their views developed, (bringing our youngest son with them willingly) I found myself increasingly agreeing with them and the longer I nursed critically sick babies, I told myself that there cannot be anyone up there. I finally decided that if there was anyone up there who could have any influence on what had happened to these precious little human beings then I could not believe in him/her. If there wasn't anyone then it was down to bad luck. Finally I decided on the latter, believing that I had been very lucky to have had 3 healthy children and these parents had been incredibly unlucky to have had babies with so many problems. My work in Africa over the past 5+yrs has only confirmed this belief. I don't understand how they accept death as God's will, even when it is unnecessary, wives, mothers, sisters dying in pregnancy and childbirth. I never make a thing about my beliefs, but I am regularaly asked when visiting "Angela where do you worship?" I tell them, "I will tell you the truth but you will not like what I have to say." They can't compute what I say, you can see it in their eyes! In Liberia, I visited an MSF children's hospital, the front part was a tent. Sick babies and children were being cared  for in the most challenging environment I have ever seen. It was terrible, the staff were doing their very best in the worst possible circumstances. In the main hospital, there were 3 children to a bed. Babies were cared for on shelves. Next door to the hospital, was a church.. seemed to have been fairly newly built. It was in pristine condition. As I stood and looked at the two buildings, I cried. As much as I do not believe in a god, I couldn't help but think that if there is one up there, he/she would not want what I was seeing. What is that quote from the bible about anyone harming a child being cast somewhere.. into the fires of hell or something like that? Hell will be very full of clerics!!   
Comment by Joe Lofty on March 28, 2011 at 1:21pm
I was born into a Seventh Day Adventist household, in the "bible-belt" of the southern United States. As a child I was very faithful. When I was about ten, I think, I got the idea to ask "How do you guys know what you're saying is true?" Like a good child, I sat and listened to my parents and elders in the church try to teach me what faith was. To put the end result plainly, it didn't make a bit of sense to me. I slowly grew away from it simply because "taking it on faith", a concept foreign to me, was just that. Foreign. I decided to brand myself an atheis recently, however, after about seven years away from church.
Comment by Alayna on March 14, 2011 at 10:42pm
Brought up Catholic.  Left the church and christanity years ago.  6 years ago, found my life changing event...witchcraft, which lead me to the Goddess, and a whole bunch of Gods and other Goddesses...seriously ppl???  Now...I'm here..and things are getting clearer.
Comment by Aliqsandre Suguitan on February 19, 2011 at 7:26pm

I am an ex-everything. - Tried them all. I do not vehemently say "There is no God!".  All I say is "Prove it".

I consider myself fortunate to be in a place where I can be an atheist. In places where religion runs the government, a person cannot be of any other religion or say he does not believe in God, or Allah.

If you are in such a place, try to inform you friends (secretly of course) the befits of freedom, in places where the government is separate from religion. When you are numerous enough, rise, free yourself from the shackles of religious oppression, and breath the free air of democracy. But not before.  If the religious government and its minions find out that you no longer believe, you will be put to death. 

If you are not brave enough to be a hero, but cannot stand the stench of oppressive religion any longer, come on over. Here, you can be an atheist, unless you do not want to - without fear of being put to death.

Comment by Aliqsandre Suguitan on February 19, 2011 at 6:50pm

Religion is the greatest bane of man. To the believer, it gives him the right to oppress non believers and deprive them of life, liberty and property. Think Joan of Arc, Spanish Inquisition, Salem witch dunkings, Ireland, and the Islamic conquests from Moorish Spain. to Morocco, to Persia, to India, and parts of China and Moro Philippines and all lands in between, where Islam was spread by the sword.

If you are in a place where you can be an atheist, consider yourself fortunate. Where Islam is the religion, the government imposes the law of Sharia. There, you cannot openly claim your atheism, nor be of any other religion. - You will be put to death. In places where Islam is more tolerant, they may allow you to be atheist or practice non-Islamic religion - on the condition that you pay the humiliating tax of non-Muslims, half of all your income.

All religions are oppressive. Islam is the worst of all.

Aren't you glad you are in a place where you can be an atheist?

Comment by Epochonaut on February 19, 2011 at 2:54pm

I was a Jehovah's Witness and genuinely believed that Armageddon could come any day. There wasn't really any one particular day that I decided not to be a JW any more. Once I moved out on my own and began to rub shoulders with non-believers more often, I began to have doubts about my faith. For a while I took Pascals wager but it didn't take long for me to see the flaws in that idea too. Gradually I realized that I just didn't believe any more.


For a while I didn't really care about religion one way or the other. It was people like Christopher Hitchens and Sam Harris that turned me from an apathetic atheist into an anti-theist.

Comment by Lissa Newbould-Ortiz on February 8, 2011 at 9:28am

I grew up in your stereotypical Protestant Christian North American home. My dad wasn't around but my mom was a fundie all her life. I started to rebel when I was a teenager but after turning from Christianity I went onto Wicca, Buddhism, etc. Then I was just spiritual for a while. I found this book by Christopher Hitchens called God is not Great. After I read it I walked out onto my balcony, looked up at the stars and thought, "There's nothing there." I realized there was no God and if there was I certainly would never worship a cruel entity like that.


Comment by deepthought42 on February 2, 2011 at 11:35am
Forgive the expression, Anachro!, but "Amen!" Or, as the FSM would say: "Ra-men!" ;)

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As Diminished as any Good Christian

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