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Permalink Reply by Angie the Anti-Theist on January 5, 2010 at 8:25pm

I did the whole knocked-up mom thing too (but in college, not high school) and it's great that you were able to grow up & take care of your kid, but there's no reason to guilt trip anybody about this. we all got pregnant the same way - by having sex. There's nothing wrong, shameful, or immature about having sex, aand none of us here knows a thing about the conditions of her birth control or choices. It's really, really great that you're a devoted mom. I chose the same path, but I don't imagine it's right for everyone or that it's easy. My kid & I lived in my car for a month when he was 2. Just thinking about that - living in a station wagon, with everything you own, and your 2 year old baby. Don't pretend like this shit is easy or like love is all you need.

Also, my ex has been court ordered to pay me $350/month since Jan. 08. I haven't received one payment.

Permalink Reply by M on March 4, 2010 at 2:11pm

It won't be easy, but nothing good in life is. Parenthood is the most amazing journey anyone can have. I don't think anyone in any position-- from the wealthy married couple to the poor single mom-- ever doesn't find themselves feeling alone, frustrated, freaked out, ready to run, whatever, at some point while parenting. That's just how it is. But my favorite time of the day is snuggling up at bedtime with a book and my two daughters, reading 'til we fall asleep. Nothing else can replace that, and when I'm looking back at the past and how hard some of it was, I know I'd live it over again just because I couldn't trade my life for a different one without my girls. I think you'll find the farther you get into your pregnancy, the less you'll be OK with giving someone else the life inside you. Single parenthood is not easy. Don't let anyone kid you that it is. But it's not impossible and you can still have the life you want for you and your child. You just have to work harder and not give up. My sister is a hardcore Christian and I don't agree with her views, but she's a fabulous mom. In fact, I think she outshines me as a mother in numerous ways. I'm sure your aunt and uncle will also be very good parents. So, your decision is not easy. It's up to you, and if your decision is made with the good of your baby in mind, you made the right decision and should never feel guilty.

Permalink Reply by Becca on March 5, 2010 at 1:08am

Have you thought about doing an open adoption? I'd advise doing a little research on it. Also if I were in your shoes I'd go to my local planned parenthood and discuss all the options with them. There are all sorts of resources out there to support you in your decision making process and to support you after you have made your decision. If you haven't already (I see your post was in December) I would at least talk to your aunt and uncle to let them know you haven't made a final decision yet and may not for a long time. Anyways, regardless of your choice I wish you nothing but the best. :)

Permalink Reply by Frink on March 14, 2010 at 3:47pm

Hell no. What you've described is the worst possible family for any child to grow up in. It will mentally cripple the child forever.

Permalink Reply by Felix on April 6, 2010 at 3:06am

I agree with this. Brain washing is child abuse. Please don't give these folks another kids brain to rot. Being wealthy isn't everything ,at the end of the day we die with nothing.
You're in a hard spot, I wish you the best.

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