Survivors of Violence Support and Recovery

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Survivors of Violence Support and Recovery

A group for victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, sex trafficking, victim-defendant crimes, child custody/post-separation battering, stalking, gang violence, drug trafficking (mule), immigration related violence, military/war related violence, prisoners of war....and any other form of violence I forgot to mention.

A place to discuss, learn, vent, and draw awareness to the things most people don't want to talk about. All conversation MUST be civil, no personal attacks tolerated here or the moderators will no notified immediately.

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Latest Activity: on Tuesday

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Comment by Belle Rose on Tuesday
I am in crisis. I may be away for a while.
Comment by Simon Paynton on Monday

Sorry to hear that Belle   :-(

Comment by Belle Rose on Monday
I am having a very hard time right now. I know the number to every crisis line in my county, but I don't feel like talking right now. I don't want to say a word. I just want to write. And somehow, I want to be heard as well, and know that someone has heard me. I don't need or want advice, and I don't even need anyone to care, I just need to put these thoughts out there in the universe somewhere...

I read something I shouldn't have. I was reading a research article on sex trafficking. I try to stay up to date on issues that affect women, particularly around violence, because as a survivor, I feel a duty to help women get stronger, and thrive, even if it is only via my blogs and comments, or the occasional poem, but it is a subject I'm passionate about.

Tonight it came back to bite me. As I was reading this article I was sent back to my own past and trauma in a way I wasn't expecting or prepared for. You see I was groomed to be a sex slave along with my best friend. I didn't know at the time that that is what was happening to me. I just thought she had a very cool step dad...only in hind sight do I understand what he did to us. We were 14.

I'm feeling very scared and anxious lately. I don't feel safe for a number of reasons. Right now I'm flooded with emotions, and I don't know what to do. I am nauseous and sick. I just want to be normal. Right now my PTSD is really affecting me. I am being flooded with memories that I've buried down deep. I just want it to stop. Please make it stop.
Comment by Belle Rose on December 31, 2013 at 10:33am
So well said my friend :-)
Comment by David Smith on December 31, 2013 at 9:32am

Hmm, I (unfortunately) don't think that my lack of beliefs made me stronger in the face of violence as I otherwise would have been.  Though taking my personal well being as a job for me rather than a job for the supernatural does come with an inherent strength.

I would think I may have been stronger if it hadn't been for the advice of believers in fact.  It's so easy to say 'it'l all work out' or 'i believe things will turn out for the best' regardless if you link the statements to belief in the supernatural or not, they are burred in un founded belief, and are nothing more than  'get out' statements in the face of offering real advice or support. (though it can be very hard to offer support at all, and its all a lot of people know)

The way you'r raised can help a lot when dealing with things, and I'm sure genetics play a role to.  For me though, I needed my coping strategies overhauled with the help of therapists and support groups.  

Sometimes admitting defeat and that help is needed is the single strongest thing anyone can do, and I would beg anyone who feels they have run through all the options available to give it a go.  Even then, it may take a few goes before finding people that work for you.

Taking the time and going the extra mile to help ones self is something anyone should be proud of no matter how they go about it.  To show such love and compassion to ones self is such an amazing thing, and its something we all don't do enough of.  If we cant learn to love our selves, how can we expect to love others or for them to love us?

Comment by Belle Rose on December 30, 2013 at 9:43pm
Thank you David! Yes you are right. Almost everybody (unless you live in a bubble) is affected by violence. What do you think has been your source of strength to survive the violence you've seen/experienced and be unaffected by it? Do you think it's because you never believed in a god that you are strong because of it? Is it how you were raised? Your genetics? Lol...all of the above? I wonder how much of our resilience is determined by genetics. Topic for discussion possibly...
Comment by David Smith on December 30, 2013 at 9:29pm

Love the group.  I think we have all been effected in some way by violence.  I don't think I have any un resolved issues on violence but what an effect even the threat of it can have on our lives.  

Here mostly for support and chat.

Comment by Belle Rose on December 30, 2013 at 7:34pm
Anyone is welcome, survivors and allies/advocates.
 

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