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Permalink Reply by Diego on February 2, 2012 at 6:33pm

I think most guys will give it up when a girl shows she's not interested. 

Permalink Reply by Dustin on February 2, 2012 at 8:19pm

god no, if a girl acts like she isn't interested I say buh-bye and won't waste my time on her.  

I know of a few girls that can't stand when guys don't lavish them with attention so they fall for the guys that act like they don't exist.  Seems like an immature way of dealing with things but it does work to a degree.  If you smother a girl with attention and affection before you know them really well, they will probably get creeped out.  

Permalink Reply by G. Michael Williams on February 2, 2012 at 11:10pm

Age/ Maturity dependent.  I'm old enough to not play games, I'd assume you weren't interested and if I thought you were, too much damn work.

Teenage kid looking to make his bones, he'd go after the "conquest".

Permalink Reply by Doug Reardon on February 2, 2012 at 11:45pm

As I recall, it was my wife asked me to marry her.

Permalink Reply by KaraC on February 3, 2012 at 1:15am

Depends if she wants a relationship based on mutual respect and friendship, or one based on being manipulative. If the former then no, if it is a power thing then yes. Same thing if you go after an extraordinarily attractive person- never, ever mention their looks. Everyone else will be constantly telling them how gorgeous she is, so if you don't you'll intrigue them. Again, manipulative and not really the basis for a good relationship.

Permalink Reply by ernie garcia on February 3, 2012 at 1:16pm

I don't know if it's "true" so much as a method people use to establish their position in the relationship.  If the other person is chasing you, it is assumed that you are in control.  The majority of relationships appear to have one person who is in charge while the other is subordinate.  It's not always the guy. I would think any rational person would want to be equals in a relationship, but emotions make thinking logically difficult for someone you're romantically entangled with.

I can only speak for myself when I say that playing hard to get is a good way to encourage the guy to look for somebody who doesn't play mind games.  

Permalink Reply by Sean O' Byrne on February 3, 2012 at 1:44pm

No way, it depends completely on the person in question! If I was meeting a girl and she showed no interest I'd stop bothering quickly enough! Whats the point in games?!?! There's a certain amount of 'chasing' that should be done by both parties but showing no interest is a bad move, especially considering how easy it is to meet other people now. But showing to much is equally off putting. You need to get a balance and know that as a relationship develops so do the roles that each person plays changes! 

Permalink Reply by Dave on February 4, 2012 at 5:48am

No, not for me.  I tend to be quite up front if I like someone which I'm working on as it tends to scare women off lol!  But there's nothing I like more than a woman who will walk up to me in a bar or wherever, ask for my number and if I want to go for a drink.

Permalink Reply by Rob Jay on February 4, 2012 at 10:59am

I think it should be about give and take......it's supposed to be fun, not a major battle with strategies and manoeuvres lol. I think some people put too much thought into these things and too little heart/gut ...... just saying, like

Permalink Reply by Tom Holm on May 27, 2012 at 12:27am

Well...if a girl acts as if she is not interested then I leave her alone. But if I really want that chick, wheather she likes me or not initially, then I will get her or at least try. But I can only try so hard until I finally say faq it and move on. Plus I like a little challenge and I'm a big flirt, and most women lt me know before hand if they are interested.

Permalink Reply by c.o on January 24, 2013 at 8:56am

I think its how it works for some. For me such games can ruin the relationship between two people, i believe that being so transparent is the best way to do it, yes maybe a lot of women or men wouldn't like such attitude but it's not designed to all women or all men it's the designed for the true soulmate...

What i think is NO, a woman should be very clear about her intentions and same for men :)

Permalink Reply by Unseen on January 24, 2013 at 10:08am

Playing hard-to-get works for a while, until he figures you're ungettable.

At the same time, it's a male trait to be acquisitive. Once he thinks he has you, his attentiveness may drop off some. He'll move on to his next project. Contrary to what many (more typically females) think, always leaving a little doubt is not a bad thing. So, even if you're in a committed relationship, let him know that you think Obama or some famous actor is hot, and let your eyes wander when with him. I can almost guarantee you'll be seeing his eye wandering from time to time.

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