Is it true that a girl is supposed to act like she isn't that interested so that a guy will remain interested? Does this cat and mouse game still work?
I always thought that was a load of nonsense, well that's just me.
It sounds like your daughter's bf is not very interested at all, maybe it is because she is not in contact with him enough? Who knows.
I often find that attraction is a mutual thing, in that if someone shows interest, I’m more likely to be interested in them. Playing hard to get is terribly unattractive. If you act like you’re not interested, then I take that as a sign that I should move on. This could possibly explain the situation your daughter is in. If your daughter is purposely maintaining distance, then that’s sending a signal that she’s not interested, thus the lack of effort on the part of the guy. That’s my experience anyway.
good advice. i had this problem in high school i did not want to be over zealous and ask the girl im dating now, i found out later that she also had feelings for me. a few years later we got together again and realized we both felt the same way. we have been dating for over a year now.
doesn't work for me
cause I'm to shy to act first :p
This always confuses me. Playing... Act... I don't understand it. In my life all my relationships have been spontaneous. There is no game to it. It works immediately and then later you find the problems. If the relationship doesn't happen immediately, how can it work possibly work?
Still work! Of course it 'Still Works'! Yes there is something to it! When a female acts disinterested and aloof she is essentially sending the message that she is of a higher status than the pursuing male and that is attractive for understandable evolutionary reasons having to do with each animal wanting to pass on the highest quality genes they can to their offspring so as to help insure the survival of those offspring. If a female is aloof then the message is 'I have highly desirable genetic traits'.
The effect is enhanced if the male is made to know that there are many males who are interested in that female. It stirs the blood for a male to see that other males are sexually interested in a female that he is interested in because it confirms that the female is a prime female. Most women know what effect it has on a man when he believes that other guys are sniffing around the same female he either has or wants.
I have heard of married men asking their wives to wear some almost too revealing or sexy clothes when they go to a club together or some function, and the wives recounting the harried railing they get from their inflamed husband between the sheets after the party because the mans desires were inflamed by the boob glances, and ass stares and other attention his lady got from other males in the club or at the party earlier in the night.
Disinterest, coyness, and especially jealousy are powerful manipulative tools for a woman to use on men but they can really get the job done. Triggering the Jealous reaction works a treat because it confirms to the guy that you must be desirable because other men want you too. We guys are proper suckers for that manipulative shite. We can't much help it, because under all those fancy suits and Italian leather underwear with the built in iPhone pouch in the front, we are after-all just animals wanting to pass on our genes.
For me I've always been interested in a girl if she's interesting regardless of if she shows interest or not.
HOWEVER I only communicate my own interest if she shows at least some sign of reciprocation because I do NOT want to be that friend that is always trying to get with her.
Unless the girl shows reciprocated feelings light flirting is the farthest I go.