Dating Christians and Other Religious People

Have you ever dated someone who believed in God or was very religious?
How did that work out for you?
Is it possible for an atheist and a theist to be together in the long run?
Would you date them in the first place?

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Permalink Reply by Nix Hex on August 27, 2013 at 10:02pm

I have dated someone that I really liked quite a bit and it didn't work out because she was just "too religious". I tried to put up with it, but ultimately I just couldn't stand it. I might be able to if someone maybe believes, but isn't too serious about it. She would probably have to be at least skeptical, though or I don't know if they would be able to handle me and what I believe.

Permalink Reply by Unseen on September 1, 2013 at 8:40am

I'd sooner date a Christian than a smoker.

Look, Christians come in many flavors. Some would insist on having things their way, others would place a lot of emphasis on getting along with others and doing conversion through example. When I was a Christian (Episcopal), that was the sort of Jesus I believed in ("Let him who has never sinned throw the first stone").

A very evangelical fundamentalist Christian would probably be pretty close to impossible to date for very long. For one thing, like hell I'd wait until we were married to have sex.

Permalink Reply by Lewal on September 1, 2013 at 1:09pm

It's not ideal, is it? But it can be interesting. And people change.

Permalink Reply by Unseen on September 2, 2013 at 10:41am

I wouldn't be likely to date most Christians. I might make an exception for a member of a non-evangelical sect, like a Unitarian.

I'd go for a Hindu woman. They don't proselytize.

Permalink Reply by Mike 2000 on September 2, 2013 at 9:27am

I've been afraid to date such types, so no.

Certainly, this did not work out for me.

I find that there is something twisted in the concept of a theist and an atheist getting together. The core of modern theism seems to be that the idea that make-believe is an OK thing for civilized adults to believe in. I often get the impression that religious individuals feel contemptuous and disdainful towards the ideas of reality and truth. "In the long run" usually involves breeding, and breeding is typically the indoctrinated agenda of a "believer".

So of course I wouldn't date one in the first place.

Permalink Reply by Tor Hershman on September 2, 2013 at 11:23am

Gad! I used to be a big-time Deist.

Of course, if ye's avatar be up to date, that 'twere LOOOOOONG before ye 'twere born.

Now, huuuuuuuuuummmmm, it depends on what her swimsuit photo look like AND...yes, I am that shallow.

Well, personality DOES play a key part.....about 50/50.....I suppose.

There could be exceptions.

Permalink Reply by Mo Trauen on September 2, 2013 at 1:24pm

No. And I have to advise others against it as well. Especially female atheists. In any event, female atheists should have no reason to date a believer because there are so many more male atheists around to choose from.

I have been married for a long time (I joined this group just to reply to this question). It is hard enough communicating with another person when you have similar views because of all the unspoken assumptions you each have from your separate life experiences. Adding religion to the mix means that you will probably have very little in common and will have big trouble in the relationship sooner or later as a result.

Permalink Reply by Reg The Fronkey Farmer on September 2, 2013 at 6:40pm

I like woman that can think freely and that enjoy intellectual debate…along with the finer things in life. So dating a Christian whose world view is based on a delusion would be a disappointment. It is so unsexy to hold such a pessimistic and immature stance. No spark, no fire, no fun, no way.

Permalink Reply by SteveInCO on September 2, 2013 at 8:16pm

Hear, hear!

Permalink Reply by M.M. on September 3, 2013 at 2:27am

Never had this experience.

Nor would I ever consider getting involved with someone who was truly religious.

They would have to be the most amazing fucking human to ever have existed except for that one tiny flaw.

But faith is such a corrosive thing that it effects everything else about that individuals personality.

So I dont ever see it happening.

Good topic though.

Permalink Reply by Logicallunatic on September 3, 2013 at 4:47pm

I have dated women who were middle of the road, kind of cultural Christians who don't take it seriously. I don't see any harm in that. I've also dated a Jesus freak for a couple of weeks. The last straw was when she wanted me to pray with her and help her hand out the vile propaganda on the street.

Permalink Reply by Doug Reardon on September 3, 2013 at 4:50pm