I am an Atheist, very few people know. My Mother, my wife and two very close friends. Although I want to be a "Public" Atheist I am not there yet. This is a forum for seeking advice and to share experience. Things to consider and be aware of.
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Hi guys, this group couldnt be more relevant in my life right now!
above is my story of my deconversion!
peace and love x
I'm not out of the closet. In fact, I work in a church as music director. To quit would deprive my family of much-needed income. So I remain in the closet for the time being. See my blog here at TA for more about me.
I've been out of the closet with my husband actually using the word "Atheist" for about four years now. At first I was nervous, as he is a Christian and I was as well when we first got married seven years before (I was questioning even then). I was afraid he would feel lied to, but he was more accepting than I could have dreamed. I think it helped that it was a gradual change that he was able to watch, rather than an all of a sudden thing.
My friends and family on the other hand, are another matter. My mother is a very conservative Southern Baptist, and my father is an Evangelical. My sister is a Christian as well, and works for a girl's youth ministry. She has also done missionary work in the Philippines and Haiti.
The vast majority of my friends, save for a few people I met in college back in my home state, are all conservative Christians. For the sake of background, I grew up in Lake Charles, Louisiana, in a very conservative family. EVERYBODY in this town is Christian of some kind or another, there is just no escaping it. I grew up in a churchgoing family, and I was homeschooled from fifth grade till graduation. During that time my mother had me enrolled in a Christian homeschool group, where I made a lot of friends. I attended a lot of youth bible studies as well, and made friends at all the churches we went to. So for the most part, save for one lone escapee I recently reconnected with on the internet, all of my childhood friends are Christians as well. I have struggled to build close friendships as an adult, so they are pretty much all I have. See what I am up against?
This evening my best friend from childhood left me a private message on my Facebook I had liked an image from a Dawkins fan page, and for some reason it actually posted the thing to my wall (Facebook and its wonky new changes, gah!) so a lot of people I would rather not have a confrontation with saw it. She basically expressed that she is concerned about me and chided me and asked "where is your faith?". I have no idea how to tell her "I have none".
I really love this girl, we have been close friends since childhood. I guess it's mostly a fear that she will ultimately reject me, and then I will be all the more alone. But now more than ever I really feel the burning need to just let ALL the people in my life know, and consequences be damned. But I am very sure that if i don't do it in the right way, delicately, my entire social life will implode, and I'll bring more grief and frustration on myself then I can handle.
I'm only out of the closet with my middle-kid and my co-workers. I feel like a heel keeping this from my wife, but I've been an Atheist for about a year and am an avid blogger. I'm moving my blog post-by-post from blogspot to here.
Any advice for breaking the news would be great.
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