I'm Living with Theists

If you're living with theists that don't/ won't understand or accept your atheism and/ or treat you badly because of your atheism... this is the place to come!

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For Your Personal Entertainment - Not all Dogs go to heaven.

This was.... for me... a major inspiration for creating this group. The pic on the group's profile got a little cut off [sorry]. I cut and pasted a pic of the family guy "family" into paint and added an arrow on the left... if you look you can see it. [the word above it got cut off... but it's supposed to say "atheist."]. So enjoy this episode... it'll probably remind you of some of your own life experiences.

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Your experience of living with theists

Started by Skycomet the Fallen Angel. Last reply by Victor Javier Zamora Apr 27, 2011. 6 Replies

Use this discussion to talk [or rant] about what kind of experiences you've had while living with theists. What were the "good times?" What were the "bad times?" Were you ever a theist with them? Are…Continue

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Comment by Ken Hughes on November 14, 2011 at 5:38pm

The thing that gets under my skin more than anything is the smugness that I see and feel when my missus of the past 45-years when I challenge her "relationship" when I request that she prove the validity of her invisible friend.  Her unreasoning belief in her invisible friend is the only real flaw in an otherwise perfect, long-term marriage.  Even our children comment on the fact that the two of us have the best marriage of which they know even with that "fundamental" difference.  There's a book in there that I've started to write, as if the two of us can live together with the diametrical positions we have on the subject of any god and especially the one thay choose to capitalize; utterly ridiculous!

Comment by Skycomet the Fallen Angel on March 18, 2011 at 8:21pm
Comment by Skycomet the Fallen Angel on March 18, 2011 at 8:20pm
Well here's the WORKING episode of Family Guy I was trying to share

07x11 Not All Dogs Go To Heaven Part 1 [HQ]

Comment by Ken Hughes on March 18, 2011 at 5:43pm

G'Day Mark,


When I first walked away, she, and especially some of her coreligionists tried argue with me and, figuratively of course, beat me over my head with their cross and that nefarious manual from which they like to cherry-pick passages and phrases.  I was always nice to them as long as they didn't persist in hounding me.


When she had her epiphany with that Martinsville (VA) Christian Fellowship  bunch of Assemblies of doG-associated Pentecosts and started talking about and doing some of the really strange crap Pentecosts tend to do, I came as close as I ever have to walking out the door.  However, that would have devastated our two children and I didn't have it in me to do that.


We've learned which are hot-button issues and have enough love and respect for each other that even though we are together most of every day, we run our business together, that we started in 1993 in Fort Lauderdale, and she does her thing with her invisible friend and I don't participate.  She known that I will not, under any circumstances, enter a church or any part of one.


I meet when I have the time with the Denton (TX) Atheist Meet-Up Group and the Fort Worth Freethinkers Meet-Up Group.  The missus tells her friends that I am a non-believer and to refrain from hitting on me.  Our next-door neighbor, in fact all our neighbors are true-believers and all know that I'm not and have no use for the supernatural and paranormal.


I have told them that all I would really like to receive from them for my lack of any religious impulse is to receive in full measure the same respect and courtesy I extend to them.  That disarms them and we all get along very well and help each other as and when needed.


In short, it all comes down to mutual respect, and those who don't show it to me when I make the effort receive none in return.  I also do a lot of writing in the local Wise County Messenger from a liberal, non-believer point of view.  As you may well anticipate here in the heart of Tea Party land, I upset a lot of people; what's more I get a lot of self-satisfaction and no small measure of entertainment from poking that true-believer hornet's nest.

Comment by Walter Maki on March 18, 2011 at 4:30pm

*without a trace


(My typing skills wane greatly lol)

Comment by Walter Maki on March 18, 2011 at 4:29pm
Thank you Ken for sharing. My wife was mad at me last night but she wasn't able to maintain her defensive stance of turning her back to me. This morning was went on like there just like most morning with a trace of ill towards me. But at one time she shared a journal entries of having doubt about her beliefs. And congrats on the near 45 mark :) that is rare now a days. My wife and I have been through our share of storms for over 17 years and our love is stronger now. I desire to have the mutual respect for each other even if she hangs on to a belief system. I have to remain tactful and caring as not to trash my marriage.
Comment by Ken Hughes on March 18, 2011 at 11:48am

I've been married to the same southern belle from my hometown of Eden, yes "Eden" NC for the past soon to be 45-years.  When I moved for the final time from Eden in Jan. 1993 it was with a final and total repudiation of religion of any shape, form or fashion.  Eden, with its population of about 15K give or take a few, has within its boundaries or near environs, and by actual inventory 125 churches.  The math is easy, placing the entire population under a church roof, be they official or store-front, it would require only 120 per institution, with "institution" being the operative word.


When we started dating I was an agnostic, perhaps a hyper agnostic, very near to the, as my brother in law once called it "the big A" of atheism.  Her status as a believer did not interfere much with our relationship and I was content to enjoy her company and charms.  I even went with her to a few, very few services at the Christian Church where her grandmother and mother were members.  As long as no one forced religion on me I was content to leave Jessee's crap in a closet, a very deep, dark closet to be sure; as long as doG didn't bother me I was content to leave the door shut and locked from the outside.


Then in 1985 she had the born-again experience and became a hyper active evangelical-type after being dragged into it by our son and then our daughter went all holy-spooky as well and the three of them dragged me along saying it had to be a "family" thing.  In otder to maintain the domestic tranquility I went along to a crapstian fellowship of the deeply Pentecost formua and endured that crap for a year before finally telling them I was never going there again.


We moved to Fort Lauderdale in 1993 and I tossed religion and doG aside as nothing but trash and more trash.  Yes she is still awash in that mess and we now live in Texas of all effing places and I hate it.


At least she has finally realized I am and never will be part of her "Relationship" and allows me to be me after a long time of her and her coreligionists hammering on me.  She now tells them to leave me alone and we never go to that place in our otherwise very successful marriage.  It's not easy and very few couples can accomplish it, but it works for us.  She goes to her functions and I mine and never the two shall meet.  We're quite happy and have a lot of fun.  Here's the other part, she is a neocon Republican and I a very liberal independent and we have a 45th anniversary coming on June 3.

Comment by Walter Maki on March 18, 2011 at 11:30am
How about this for a household conflict- I know there are other married people out there who's spouse is theist. I recently became an atheist. It has caused emotional distress among others in my house ( I also have 3 children- 16, 17 and 23 ) when I point out a few things wrong the bible. Plus with my wife with a brief conversion last night found out it wasn't just a fad of hoping on the bandwagon so to speak. She was hurt...more to come in my own blog: My Journey and a bit where I came from
Comment by Jason on August 29, 2010 at 6:09am
Family Guy rules.
Comment by Brooke Bender on August 26, 2010 at 12:33am
I think that episode of Family Guy was one of the most positive and realistic portrayals of atheism I have seen on screen. But I looked on the skeptical blogs and there was barely a peep uttered about it! Glad to see it positively influenced someone else :)

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