Probably one of the most awkward and confusing things I've experienced on and off the internet, is trying to figure out [in the dating world] who's what [homosexual, bi, strait, asexual, ex.] and whether or not I should approach someone I'm interested in and ask them out when I'm not sure of their sexual prefrence and suspect they may not be interest.
How do you tell? Or is there even a way? :?
I remember one specific example where I screwed up, badly.
[I'm "questioning" and probably "bi" - but I don't know yet.]
I "fell for" a guy in high school who was extremely nice, funny, and intelligent. I tried to "make a move" to let him know how I felt. [I had a good reason to believe that this was safe, as he had had "girl friends," although, looking back, I never saw him make physical contact with his "girlfriends." - Which I didn't notice at the time.
So I tried to make a move, and scared him away, BIG TIME.
At the time I felt hurt and confuse... wondering why he was avoiding me and ran off whenever I tried to talk [even as a friend].
It wasn't until 4 years later, that I learned the reason why...
He "came out" gay on facebook.... wow I felt dumb. I was thinking, How the HELL did I miss that?!
Granted, my mistake RUINED our relationship as good friends. He hasn't contacted me since.
Confusion probably defines my position... unsure of what to do and afraid to ask when I'm interested in someone....