...if we can learn to pay less attention to rigid categories altogether, simply sexual.
I had the same doubts about the term bisexual as you. I can't stand the gender binary...I'm queer to gender. I don't like saying omnisexual or pansexual because of the connotations of promiscuity, a stereotype which we already deal with enough already. I stumbled upon a blog post talking about genders and the term bisexuality that informed me about something which allowed me to accept the term bisexual.
Consider that homo=same and hetero=different.
Different-sex attraction, or heterosexual, doesn't strictly mean opposite gender attraction. So, bisexual is homosexual (attracted to one's own gender) and heterosexual (attracted to other genders).
This kind of blew my mind. I know it's not going to come across well on a poster either. ;-)
As for the, I was x years old stories, I know they're hard to believe if you don't have that experience, but I was closeted and in denial from a young age until college. In first grade I have a distinct memory of when family friends were visiting from across country that I had the epiphany that I liked women sexually. The rarity of their visits corroborates the time. I don't know how I knew the word lesbian, but I wrote "I am a lesbian" while hiding the words from my family and friends. It is a very detailed memory and an experience I'm sure very few heterosexuals have.
I've decided it's just easier to say that I'm queer.
I have had crushes on both males and females. I have only dated a single guy. Most people assume I'm straight but I more correctly identify as asexual--it's not the body parts, it's the personality. Sometimes a guy has the right mix of qualities, sometimes it's a girl who has them. Either way, I have come out as bisexual to a few close friends who I thought wouldn't judge--even a gay male's reply was "so a hole is just a hole for you, eh?", assuming that it was all the sexual angle.
I think bisexuals often get flack from both ends of the spectrum--gay and straight, with people expecting you to "pick a side" so to speak. But I think as many bodies are so interchangeable(I find convincingly androgynous people insanely awesome--I wish I had that sort of ability to transform), eventually it won't matter. I've been accused of being a guy lots of times, and it used to really bother me--not so much any more. It is mildly amusing to have people blink at me like I'm crazy when I say I identify as asexual.
I do fear general judgment from women if I out myself on having crushes on girls, though. So I generally keep quiet.
However, It is never about sexy tiemz, and I honestly would take a nice tea party with smoked salmon and cream cheese finger sandwiches over a steamy orgy any day(not that orgies are bad).
Interestingly enough, I've never actually been in a relationship with a woman. And, I never will because I'm getting married in three months. But I very recently came to the realization that I'm bisexual (or fluid), I've had crushes on guys and girls my whole life. And I find men and women to both be beautiful, women probably more so. But, I am marrying a man who is the love of my life. And he completely understands my bisexuality and has no problem with it
hi i am a bisexual male i have dated and slept with both sexes but im more attracted to males
i came out about being bi just a few months ago when i was going through depression
depression come on by very homophobic and hateful dad and every one in a 20 mile radius i am 1of the 5 atheist in my entire town and probably the only bi male in my town