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Permalink Reply by JD5DAD on September 15, 2009 at 1:56am

I am married and I was married in a church for my wife I did not say the word god speech and my wife was ok with it her mother on the other hand got pissed she hates me but I told her I wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire she kept telling everyone at the wedding I was a atheist and that I was going to burn so I had to tell her to shut the fuck up if you want to be brain washed go right ahead but I'll pass on a fake ass deity my hands are starting to hurt so I'm going to stop now this is what I mean DON'T GET MARRIED LOL

Permalink Reply by AlphaBitch on November 13, 2009 at 6:11am

I'm not married and I don't think I ever will be. I don't really see the point. You just never know what's going to happen down the road.

Was marriage begun as a religious ceremony or was it due to land, bloodlines, familial arrangements and such? I thought religion was added in later, kind of like the Pledge of Allegiance.

The only reason I would want a wedding would be for the actual wedding day. Doesn't that sound like fun? I get to dress up in a gorgeous gown, have my hair, face, nails, etc. done, and have a big old party all about ME (oh, and him too). I'd get to eat what I want, drink what I want, and do what I want all day and night. Oh yeah, and you get some great diamond jewelry. Why wouldn't every young girl/effeminate boy not want to get married? That's how they keep 'em coming back for more.

Permalink Reply by Larry Carter Center on December 15, 2009 at 3:54am

I hope it is ok for men to participate here. I hope to meet Atheist women of similar passions, politics and persuasions. First, I never converted, so to assume all deconvert here is almost as bad as not capitalizing Atheists and Atheism. I have been married twice and I had neither a religious nor a civil ceremony. Iowa is a common law state. I abhor the notion of a license to wed. Of course I fight for marriage equality, most necessary in the 37 states that to not have common law marriages recognized by courts and legal process. I did have a wedding in my second marriage. I'm not a serial patriarch, so my spouse and I decided to choose our own name for our marriage, she rejecting her birth father's last name and her sire to her first 3 children's last name. Thus I was born Larry Henry Carter and now add Center to complete my marriage history. I remain convinced that two people can be monogamous lovers for a lifetime. Yet that promise has yet to be fulfilled. Whether financial or simple appetite for lovemaking may be a barrier for a partner of mine, matters not. I feel the need to love and be loved. I view that as a marriage contract for promise and consideration.

Permalink Reply by Autumn Frost Belcher on December 18, 2009 at 8:58am

I am legally married but we are not together and are planning on divorce. I was married when I was 16. We were both and still are Atheists. We were married in a small little chapel in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. With only my mother, step-father, and younger sister present. It was planned maybe a month before it happened. He and I were just ready to be "free". Funny, right? Anyway, when the pastor spoke the word "God" at our ceremony, I just rolled my eyes and smiled. It was actually quite a funny little wedding. I wore a black vinyl dress and stripped leggings with a black veil and he wore a black button up shirt with a mesh shirt under. I put his ring on the wrong finger and he knocked my veil off as he went to kiss me. It was not one of my finer choices in life but...it happened. He and the whole situation taught me so much. So, I can't say that I whole heartedly regret it. Just on the days when he or the situation then and now pisses me off. :]

Permalink Reply by Merillat on January 4, 2010 at 11:10pm

I am recently married to a man who is also atheist. We had a secular ceremony that we wrote and drew largely upon Objectivist philosophy. Our wedding was meaningful to us and to our families. It is often a question I hear both from and to atheists: do we need ceremony? do we need ways to celebrate marriages, births, and deaths? As atheists I think we can take these rites of passage and make them our own.

Permalink Reply by Melody on January 9, 2010 at 5:51pm

I was married once when I was 17. Divorced when I was 19. After my divorce, I knew I would never get married again. Now at 34 I still don't beleive you need a pieace of paper to show someone you love them. I think marriage is great, for some people. I am not one of those poeple. :D

Permalink Reply by Misty: Baytheist Living! on February 17, 2010 at 4:06pm

Aww....
Sometimes we compromise our ideals to keep loved ones happy.
There is no dishonor in that.
Kudos for you, actually.

Permalink Reply by Misty: Baytheist Living! on February 17, 2010 at 4:05pm

You.. are amazing.
I'm really hung up on the fact that Colin and I broke down and got married just so he could get a freaking green card.
I really wanted to stand firm and not have a wedding until every U.S adult had that same right.
But I suck.
I can't support the three of us (we have a service dog in training) on my own.
So we did the paperwork, and now it's the fun fun process of INS interrogation for us.
His paperwork is in the mail.
I can't wait.
By the time we are done going through 'interviews' these people are going to ask if they can charge us for the couple's therapy I plan to use them as.

Permalink Reply by Misty: Baytheist Living! on February 18, 2010 at 12:51am

Show Biz.. as in.. Porn? Yes. I know.
The scary thing?
We are freaking professional divers.
I write about diving. Dive MEDICINE, actually.
I'd love to have some shred of credibility, so I use a pen name now. ~facepalm~

Permalink Reply by M on March 8, 2010 at 6:40pm

I married pre-heathenism. We went to The Hitching Post (that is really what it is called) where we were married for $50. It was religious, but the preacher was mostly lecturing my husband that he ought to treat me well. I was thoroughly entertained by this. I didn't want a big wedding. We'd like to a "do-over," probably on our tenth anniversary. Who knows what it will be like, though? Not religious, I can tell you that!

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