sadness and grieving.

I don't know if I have a right to post a discussion in the group, so if I dont I guess delete it.

but I really need some help getting over my grief.

october 4th, my 21st birthday, my 2 beloved pet cats went outside and never came back.

every day since then I have looked for them, called and gone to shelters and posted fliers on all houses in my neighborhood and the neighborhoods nearby.

I've posted their ad on craigslist, in newspapers, some of my neighbors even took the ad to their workplaces.

I can't find them.

for a while I cried and cried, then I slowly got over them.

now it is christmas time, and there will be no pictures of them this year, only last year's christmas. and those pictures are on an sd card I can't find.

I have been so depressed the past few days. every picture I look at, I cry.
I put out more fliers, and I know I get on my neighbors' nerves yelling for them all the time.

people just dont understand. "they're just cats. go get another one."

well your kids are just kids. go make more.

my pets are my children. I love cats, and despite that I have only had 2 cats (aside from these 2) my entire life. one I lost to old age, and one I still have who is getting up there and will be gone in a few years. then these two, it was like they were ripped out of my life.

I have a third and 4th cat that I adopted in my search of finding the two I lost, but you can't replace something you've loved.

it is hard to find people who understand, and none of you might understand, but I need help getting over them. I miss them so much.
even my family has told me "shut the fuck up and get over it, they're just cats."

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Permalink Reply by Laura on December 23, 2009 at 3:49pm

Umm I understand how you feel. I have a dog and he has been in my life through the hard times. He loves me to death and I can't ever see my life without him. I would be devistated if he left or died. I know that its hard to get over your pets but you just have to believe that someone found them all alone and took them in and are now in a good home. You have two more and you should turn your attention on them and give them the love and affection that you gave your other cats. ok?

Permalink Reply by Joshua McGee on December 23, 2009 at 7:06pm

Almost eight years ago I posted on my site about my hamster dying: here it is.

Since then, 271 people have commented with their own hamster death stories, and many of them were adults.

So, yeah, other people feel this way, too. It's a reasonable response.

Permalink Reply by Jay Catt on December 23, 2009 at 9:02pm

Oh Des, Im sad to hear. Pets are so special. I still grieve over my bunny. Two dogs murdered him a day after my birthday last summer.. Try explaining to a non-bunny person how a bunny can have such a big personality and be so affectionate.. At least a lot of people "get" what cats are about.
When you feel that sadness,, cuddle the cat who is by your side.

Permalink Reply by Desirai on December 23, 2009 at 11:10pm

here are last year's christmas pics..

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