If you ask me, the parents are into drugs. Maybe they are too busy to supervise their son.
I've just got this hunch.
It seems that no-one wants to play with this little boy.
Very true. it's very sad to me and it makes me furious inside to watch this little boy have such need for love an attention. It makes me sick quite frankly. And then we wonder how criminals are bred. Well here you have it. Right here. This is where it all starts. Neglectful parents who should really not be parents. I would even go as far as to say if his parents were doing a good job I highly doubt he would even have any issues to begin with. I think his so-called diagnosis of ADHD and ODD are because of the way he's grown up. Isolated and abused. The words that come out of his mouth are likely an imitation of how his father talks to his mother. It's clear to me that he is an abuser.
I have worked hard to become less codependent and always want to fix or help people. It's a battle I fight from my own upbringing. I understand that this little boy is NOT my responsibility, on the other hand I am in a unique position to make a positive impact on his life. I am trying to work through whether or not it's a good idea to get involved and also by default get my son involved. There's no middle ground here. My son is either friends with him or he's not. And if he's not that goes with it's own set of consequences for both children. If he is allowed to play with him then that's an additional responsibility I'm taking on myself. Am I willing to do so? Without any promise of a positive return? I don't know.
I also weigh the fact that I don't want my son to chose friends who are abusive. I want to send the message to him that he needs to play with kids that are well adjusted. I worry that by reinforcing the friendship I'm subconsciously reinforcing the fact that it's OK to be friends with people who mistreat us. I don't want my son to think it's OK. That's another battle I'm fighting. So it's really not as easy of a decision as it sounds. But it's become disruptive to our lives and some kind of decision has to be made. Soon.